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[joiefilled]

Well, okay. Let me stand corrected. I don't want a boyfriend - when you have a boyfriend, you come to rely on one another, and after a while you sink into a comfort zone in which neither of you are inspired in the least to improve yourselves. That's when the edges start wearing down, when you stop preening and start pawing comfortable grooves

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[cockandswan]

you can have a boyfriend that doesn't "halt the progress"

just so you know!

[joiefilled]

Huh. Yeah, I guess if anyone you would know, Johnny.

As an aside, I totally quoted you guys the other day.

[cockandswan]

yeah, i quoted you too! i was all like "lets drink some wine and make out everybody! wooo!"
JOKES!

what did you quote?

[joiefilled]

It's a time to learn something new because it's going on without you

[thegeekmeister]

i suppose they're rare, i've not come across many relationships where there's much in the way of progress -- but i can testify they're possible, as i'm in one now. don't lose hope!

[ex_ashestoas119]

i think you're smart in that decision in the position you are in right now. but, eventually, you will find someone who won't halt you in a negative way, because you are friggin' cool!

[joiefilled]

It seems these days that most people expect each other to have their shit together before approaching each other as potential partners, which is a reasonable expectation, but at the same time, that is so boring! Encouragement is one thing, taking an active role is another.

[joiefilled]

You are so much more articulate than I am in these matters. I guess all I am really looking for is someone to enhance my life, not someone to by enveloped in/by. The idea of a serious relationship with anyone does not appeal at all, just something fun, and also something to live up to in a way. I've never thought much about serious relationships, I've never particularly pined for anything other than someone to enjoy myself with. It seems strange to me that I'm suddenly part of an age group that concerns itself with domesticity and marriage; it surprises me that I wound up there in the first place. Now even so though, I really have to wonder what the crazy bug's all about. I guess it's how it's always been, it's just sort of hit me that this is what people do when they get older.