My plane leaves in two days. I keep moving between mild anxiety and serious freakout. Right now I'm in serious freakout. I'm afraid I've set myself up for complete failure
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Calm down!! :D Easy for me to say. Don't forget that you are also going to be seeing some amazing sights while you go.
One more thing, Steven and I were apart (more than together) for the first 5 years (or so) of our marriage. It's hard but if it's meant to be, it will happen.
You also made a move once before, what's to stop you from doing it again? If you are that unhappy where you are, change. I know it's harder than that.
You've not mentioned her age before. Don't concentrate on that though. Russian girls at 21 are probably a lot different than American girls at 21. I'm sure they are bc I don't think you could have gotten this serious about an American 21 yr old without wanting to knock some sense into her. You're just going to have to take a deep, calming breath whenever you start freaking out and force yourself to remember that this is an adventure! It'll be okay. In the meantime, be thinking of where you think you should move to next. Maybe Google it. See where Google thinks you'd be happy.
I know a guy who flew halfway around the world to meet a girl for the first time. His story ends with him marrying the girl and soon he can retire and live off her doctor salary
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Oh man, that's what I needed to hear. You've told me your story before, but I needed the reminder. I wish I could like your comment or give some karma.
If I can find some happiness and stability on this side of the pond, I could deal with distance and not rush into a shitty situation in Russia. BTW, have you seen all this mess with Putin hasn't been seen in over 10 days? Apparently it's either the flu or a coup.
She does have a 16 year old sister. I wonder what the legal age is in Rus... hey, stop putting ideas in my head!
I didn't put that idea in your head! I said family is off limits... for this first trip. You gotta build up to that. Stick to friends for the three way for now, preferably female, but I don't judge. Three points is three points, however you get it
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Regardless of what happens, you're going to have so much fun!
i think that being logical and freaking out/worrying/thinking about things in advance is totally normal. It means that you're thinking through all the possibilities and being thoughtful on everything that could happen.
Oh! I meant to come back and post here. I had a good conversation with her last night. The past couple of weeks I didn't feel like she was taking this visit seriously, or that I meant much to her. I was on the verge of cancelling the whole thing. But last night she told me all the stuff she had planned, and I realized she is putting some thought into this. I am much better now.
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For whatever reason mornings are really difficult lately. The gym opens in 45 minutes. Once I get up and moving around maybe I'll feel better.
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Thank you!
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One more thing, Steven and I were apart (more than together) for the first 5 years (or so) of our marriage. It's hard but if it's meant to be, it will happen.
You also made a move once before, what's to stop you from doing it again? If you are that unhappy where you are, change. I know it's harder than that.
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I definitely need to make some changes this year. I've been unhappy here for way too long.
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You've not mentioned her age before. Don't concentrate on that though. Russian girls at 21 are probably a lot different than American girls at 21. I'm sure they are bc I don't think you could have gotten this serious about an American 21 yr old without wanting to knock some sense into her.
You're just going to have to take a deep, calming breath whenever you start freaking out and force yourself to remember that this is an adventure! It'll be okay.
In the meantime, be thinking of where you think you should move to next. Maybe Google it. See where Google thinks you'd be happy.
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Age ain't nothing but a number! :D
I really hope things work out. You deserve all the happiness in the world.
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If I can find some happiness and stability on this side of the pond, I could deal with distance and not rush into a shitty situation in Russia. BTW, have you seen all this mess with Putin hasn't been seen in over 10 days? Apparently it's either the flu or a coup.
She does have a 16 year old sister. I wonder what the legal age is in Rus... hey, stop putting ideas in my head!
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Hahaha!
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i think that being logical and freaking out/worrying/thinking about things in advance is totally normal. It means that you're thinking through all the possibilities and being thoughtful on everything that could happen.
HAVE FUN! ENJOY YOURSELF! VENT HERE ALL YOU WANT!
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Thank you!
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