if somebody doesnt want to do something, or not want something done to them, or says no to something. it would be stupid for the other person to persist. personal space is an important thing.
Yeah, the personal space thing is why I let it go. It's her call to make. However, to put it in doggy-style terms, "I'm never gonna try it doggy-style, just 'cuz, even though you like it a lot," still sounds rather dismissive to me.
I want to clarify that I wasn't upset that she has that quirk, what upset me was the combination of 1) that she had never considered trying to change it, despite the fact that it only causes discomfort, and 2) I could not wrap my head around why she'd go about it that way (that was the kicker - it weirded me out and I kinda freaked). I realize now that I was just projecting my expectations for myself onto her ("You don't do this thing that I do all the time? WTF?"). If she had a reason for it, or had repeatedly tried and failed, it would have been way easier for me to both accept and remember. I just gotta try harder, I guess.
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personal space is an important thing.
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