u r not marriage material

[journalwk]

got in a fight w/ my ex-girlf, and den got in a fight w/

http://www.livejournal.com/users/lostcosmonaut/103746.html?thread=3677506#t3677506

my BIFF, in th span of half an hour, this a.m. This sounds like a joke, but it led to a

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[kthor]

vida is a lady (1:10:47 PM): here is what I think
vida is a lady (1:10:59 PM): men do not value what women have to say
vida is a lady (1:11:05 PM): they either expect women to shut up
vida is a lady (1:11:14 PM): or they hear their voices as background
vida is a lady (1:11:16 PM): white noise

Uh, who am these men she speak-um of? Pardon me for saying, but I ain't sure if that's a particularily helpful attitude to bring to a discussion on intergender communicatipating. But that's just me.

Anyways, if that were true this whole entry would be

vida is a lady (1:10:47 PM): XXFHHSHSSJSJSJSJSJS
vida is a lady (1:10:59 PM): JFFFFHSAHSHSHSHSHSHSSSSSHHHHHHSHSH
vida is a lady (1:11:05 PM): HUFFFRSSSSSSHHHHHJSSSSUSSSJSJSJSJSJSJSJS
vida is a lady (1:11:14 PM): RRRRRRRMSSSSSSHHSHSHSHSFFFFF
vida is a lady (1:11:16 PM): SSSSSSSSSSS

i keep talkin about yr instrument

[journalwk]

you were instrumental, in bringing this about, and yr instrument makes a sound that is definitively not "XXFHHSHSSJSJSJSJSJS".

lemme get this str8

[journalwk]

if he disagrees w/ you, does that mean he is invalidating you?

[betchka]

We fight a lot. I think you have a hard time putting yourself in other people's shoes, especially womens.

LJ CUT THIS ENTRY!!!

[betchka]

And why do you always seek outside opinions during arguements? I'm not saying that as an attack, I'm just saying that if you tell someone you have to consult other people to validate your right or wrong-ness, well...you're probably only gonna make them feel less validated and more pissed off...I'm not saying that as an attack, just an observation.

no

[journalwk]

i'm interested in other people's opinions. I don't always seek them out B4 making a decision.

Re: no

[betchka]

Life ain't always The People's Court. Bascially, it's like this: you're looking for other people to back you up on being right instead of actually listening to why the other person is upset. Sometimes "sorry I upset you/hurt your feelings/etc..." is the only thing needed in any given situation

pls cliffs notes this for me as i can never read these convo thingies

[disorganization]

I trust women much more than I trust men. In fact, I barely trust men at all, to the point where I have let it ruin friendships and relationships, so where does that leave me.

for what it's worth, you and I have never fought, but maybe that's only because I only talk to you in RL (and not ever on AIM) once a week or so.

all or nuzzin

[journalwk]

we don't fight because you're not a fighter over aesthetics.

probably not making sense b/c i didn't read the whole thing

[disorganization]

true ...I'm not much of a fighter period. which is why I get fucked up/over sometimes.

i have fought w diego muhlach fiercely and he am still dear to me

[journalwk]

i was always pro- yr throwing yr weight around a bit more.

you could make this post a museum of argument hyperlinks

[odobenidae]

Do you recall what we fought about? We've gotten into things once or twice (online) (on here) (here meaning Lj) (perhaps FYC, though I'm not sure) (maybe in LC) (wasn't in my journal, for sure), but I can't remember what the incidents were about. Something about online diclosure, perhaps...? I do recall that your arguments involved the line, "I call bullsh*t." Oh, to have it all archived!

Anyway, I was thinking about those minor incidents while reading the transcript above. I thought about how you "fight" and/or fought, how I felt responding at the time, whether gender had anything to do with our arguments, etc. Not sure where I'm going with this, just thinking out loud.

dics and dixon

[odobenidae]

Disclosure, that is!

god i want to archive everything for science

[journalwk]

yeah, that would be sweet 2 find. I get really on edge when I suspect that people are being condescending to me, which is what I suspected in that fight w/ you.

AND you're definitively not a girl.

BUT our fight did not drag out, either.

for reference

[odobenidae]

There was another instance, or two, but this was one. Remember when I told you that I was logging my IM chats with E? I have 3,000 pages of it, yo! And at one point I linked her to this:

http://www.livejournal.com/users/lostcosmonaut/77637.html?thread=1417541#t1417541

put on my discussion face

[rebirtha]

So if you hate women and hate most men where is the misogyny. I mean, you sound more like a misanthrope to me.

putting on my frowning this is too complicated while i m drinkin face

[journalwk]

but I love people, too, otherwise I wouldn't be here.

I'm a

faux-homophobe w/ homophobic tendencies, a misanthrope w/ misogynist leanings, a racist who hates white people (but probably gets along w/ them better than w/ any other single group).