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[journeystar]

Hi LJ friends

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Nothing is wrong with you.

[ayelle]

I don't know that it's really a simple question of choosing or prioritizing where you put your effort -- as in some people have a career and others have a relationship and/or a baby? That can't be it. I mean, you can't have a good relationship without putting in effort, obviously -- and sometimes there will be issues about having to choose between career and relationship or family, sure -- but the real issue isn't that. The real issue is that you can put in all the effort in the WORLD into relationships, dating, etc and yet still get nowhere if you just don't have the luck of having met a person with whom it can work. (Heck, unless I want to say that all people who get divorces are screwed-up failures, which I don't, I have to add that you can even meet someone, get married, even have kids and *then* see the relationship end, and still be able to say that there isn't anything "wrong with you" besides having crappy luck! These things happen.) But particularly the meeting someone -- that is just not something within your control. It's

[ayelle]

Also, you're INCREDIBLY beautiful.

[ayelle]

And, also, smart, and wonderful and fun to be around. I've been thinking about you lately. If you hadn't posted you'd have gotten an e-mail from me asking to hang out because I miss you. It's actually sitting in my Draft box because I was going to write it tomorrow.

[kalliejenn2]

i ditto all of this (the fact that you are incredibly beautify, smart, wonderful, fun, etc.!

i also agree that it's totally luck with relationships. i lucked out with jon, and it's not work at all with him. but i also know that i am SUPER lucky to have found him.

[kalliejenn2]

by the way, if you don't know how beautiful you are, i have a STUNNING picture of you from our wedding which says otherwise, which i've been meaning to get you a copy of.

[urban_faerie_]

You have nothing to be ashamed of. In fact I'd be pretty proud if I were you. Not many people can claim the accomplishment of being done with the lion's share of a second master's before they are even 30. You set the bar very, very high for yourself, which is good but I expect it is part of the reason why you are sometimes disappointed with yourself

[muffyjo]

It was lovely getting a hug the other night at the show!

Your body is fabulous, what could you possibly think is wrong with it? {Le sigh} Don't believe those damned marketing geniuses who want you to buy their products and tell you that you need them because you have something that's different from the person standing next to you.

As for the feeling of "they are getting married, having kids, having a relationship..." Oh yeah Still have em, even at my age. I like to think I'm past it but it still gets to me from time to time. I love my friends, I'm happy they've found happiness but weddings are always bittersweet.

Stop looking for reasons for people NOT to like you and focus on the reasons they do like you. Like your great smile, your hugs, your incorrigible spirit, your beautiful personality and your OMG gorgeous hair that I'm so jealous of!

[jimmystagger]

I can only echo the (much-more-well-written) sentiments already expressed. Nothing's wrong with you, chief. Mr. Right is out there somewhere. Don't worry about it and keep doing things that make you happy.