Comments | joy_moonwillow: Reconciliation

joy_moonwillow

Reconciliation

Mar 24, 2007 09:22

Last night Kris and I began having the sex conversation again. It's only a big deal because we are so bad at talking about sex with one another. We both have a lot of vulnerabilities, insecurities, and complex feelings and even after ten years of marriage we are still in the process of learning how to speak honestly while maintaining some ( Read more... )

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bondage_pixie April 5 2007, 04:26:42 UTC

Sexual repression is something a lot of people in our country experience because our right winged society wants it to be taboo. Something we shouldn't talk about and only do in secret and do it for the purpose of making babies. But sex is a healthy and natural part of our existence on earth. It's probably one of the only human physical experiences that I enjoy, and surely when no longer in human form I might miss it a lot. ;) But I hope you are able to work past the issues you have with it. I hope you can see that it is not something that is being done TO you, but rather an experience that you can enjoy and an activity that you and Kris can do together, with each other rather then something you do to please him as a "wifey duty". It is so much more then that! Plus, re-read what I wrote in Virtual Passion Party part 1. Orgasms are healthy! :) Sex isn't dirty, gross, wrong, or a sin. Read my myspace blog and you'll see more of my personal feelings/views on the matter. But hey, if you want to ask any questions that you wouldn't otherwise ( ... )

joy_moonwillow April 5 2007, 23:01:19 UTC

Jackie... the things that I'm describing in this post go much farther and much deeper than "a right wind desire to make sex taboo." Trust me I KNOW that sex is healthy and natural. I've known that for the last ten years. The trouble that I am having now is because I have used my knowledge as a sort of band-aid to conceal deep emotional/psychological wounds ( ... )

joy_moonwillow April 5 2007, 23:01:48 UTC

I think that I am so very annoyed by this particular post because you have made a great deal of assumptions about what is going on with my sexual history to lead to my feelings. I feel like your advice makes light of a very deep and serious problem I have been struggling with for most of my life. I do know that you have not been privy to most of the information I have just divulged. I also know that sexual disfunction is somthing that is very hard for someone to understand when thier own ability to climax comes about very easily and naturally ( ... )

bondage_pixie May 1 2007, 00:09:33 UTC

Joy, I am so sorry that you took my comment the way you did. Just to be clear - the *only* reason you didn't get said apology sooner is because I did not get any emails or notification of your responce comments. I had just assumed you never replied.

My comment was not meant as an asumption on your personal conflicts but rather based again on a generalization about perceived notions that I know some of my friends have delt with, as well as people in the sextips community. And some literature I've read by doing Passion Parties. I never pretended to know what your personal sexual conflicts were because it wasn't really a topic that came up often between us. When I said I was hoping you could work past your issues, I was in no way claiming to know what all your issues were and I was only going by what you had written in your post. I apologize if what I said was in any way out of line or disrespectful ( ... )

Don't Sweat It :) joy_moonwillow May 4 2007, 05:45:41 UTC

You know... I'm not really sure what to say about all of this at this point. I was upset at the time, but now I have to admit to feeling a little silly over the whole thing. I've took these past couple of days to really reflect and try to figure how how things went so horribly amiss and here is what I have come up with ( ... )