Finding My Colors [LJ Idol, 3 Strikes, week 1]

[joyfulfeather]

My identity as a queer person has turned out to be a lot more fluid than I expected. I used to think, you are what you are; you figure it out at some point, and that's that. You pick up your flag -- rainbow, pale pink/white/blue, bright pink/purple/blue, various combinations of green/black/white/grey, etc. -- and march merrily on. It does seem to

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[numero_nine]

Finding your own way and your own flag is a wonderful thing. Thank you for sharing your story.

[mollywheezy]

You have a beautiful story. Thank you for sharing!!!

[drippedonpaper]

I do think it's a process (sometimes?)

My 20 yo son came out as gay around age 13. Now says he is bi.

My 18 year old daughter is bi? She seems to go back and forth between lesbian and bi. She will figure it out.

I appreciate your entry as sometimes I think, "Why does my daughter feel she needs a label?" but you describing the relief at "knowing yourself" helps me see that it is important and I shouldn't minimize that. If she wants to discover and label, that is what she needs.

I am happy you are happy. Like the song in Shrek the Musical, "Fly Your Freak Flag High!"

I was actually just..so happy when they did that song in the musical here at an Alabama high school. There is a place for everyone and you don't need to hide! Be proud. Be you!

[viagra]

I like the "for now at least" at the end. I think a lot of us have these sorts of feelings - I am pretty solid in where I stand right now as far as romantic and sexual attraction goes, but there was a point in my life where I was never really quite sure, and tried on lots of different things that never really quite felt right. I am personally like the reader you call out in this piece, where I find labels generally unnecessary and more stifling than comforting; I am who I am I am and I'm comfortable with who I am, so I don't really feel the need to find any particular label to describe myself and every nuance of my identity. But my feeling that way shouldn't be construed as a desire to make everyone feel that way. I think we should all live our lives in such a way that makes us comfortable, and surround ourselves with people that will understand us in the way we truly are. I like that you find comfort in being able to pinpoint things, and I like that you have the self-awareness to know that your labels can and will shift around over

[pixiebelle]

I can relate, a bit, to wanting to find where you fit in. That’s how I felt when I realized demisexual was a thing. It fit for me. I wasn’t the only one like me. I wasn’t weird at all.

Well done ❤️