People always forget that both people can be right in arguments (if it's a personal and not philosophical argument, anyway. Maybe you could make a case for the latter, but I'm too tired). "It felt like B when you did A" is just a fact and yet people always dismiss that with "well, you're just too sensitive." If your attempt at communication failed, then ask why it didn't work and try a different approach. Don't belittle the other person or ask them to change the way they feel because they can't. If the other person seems "sensitive" to your approach, you've failed to win their trust. Something about your approach makes them question your intentions toward them.
In a nutshell, people so often look at these things in terms of "right" and "wrong" as opposed to "achieving communication."
Develop them in argument then! And if you fail, accept it. It doesn't mean you're wrong, it means your argument was weaker than the other. And keep going, and be honest with yourself. One day you may figure out that the reason you continue to lose the argument is because you're wrong, or you may just find a way to win the argument.
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In a nutshell, people so often look at these things in terms of "right" and "wrong" as opposed to "achieving communication."
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