Anger

[jslayeruk]

I have a lot of rage within me. It gets worse every day. I don't know how to manage it. I feel like I'm at risk of going over the edge somehow. I don't know what the best course of action is. Who do you inform? What's the procedure? Every day I get a bit angrier and I worry that I may become a danger to myself or others. It's a little more

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[dimwit68]

I think that one is supposed to get some cheap crockery and go smash it.

:-/

[jslayeruk]

Yeah, I don't think that's an economical approach. :/

[fatpie42]

Recognising is the first stage. Just the fact that you care is important.

Also are we sure this isn't some kind of OCD thing? Sometimes people can get very worried that they MIGHT do something even if it probably won't happen. Like there are mothers with OCD who are terrified of killing their children, even though they wouldn't ever want to do that. Not saying you have OCD, but just checking whether the danger is real or imagined. Are there genuine instances of where your anger has gotten out of hand that you can point to, or are you just worried about getting too angry?

For stress, anger and the like, it may be worth seeking professional help, particularly if you are worried about putting yourself or others in danger. But first it makes sense to already have an idea of what is causing this. When did you last feel particularly angry? What sorts of things set you off? Have you considered any techniques for reducing anger and stress? What things make you feel calm?

[jslayeruk]

So far I've not done anything extreme. I've fired off some passive aggressive emails, which is about as bad as it gets for me. I mostly hold everything in until I get a headache and need sleep.

I'm currently seeing a therapist - I'll bring it up at our next session.

[girlofprey]

A good first step might be calling the Samaritans or something. They're not just there for people on the edge of suicide, anyone can call and they're there to just listen. Talking about it might take some of the pressure off, which is probably making things worse if you're keeping it all in, and discussing it will probably help give you a better idea of how serious the problem is, what's causing it, or just narrow down exactly what you're feeling and what's happening. I've called Samaritans and it's helped before, although not for this problem. Talking it through might help you figure out the situation better and decide what you want to do next.

[girlofprey]

Just to be clear, when I say 'figure out what the situation is', I don't mean to see if you have a problem or not, because you obviously do if you're making a post like this. But like someone above said, when my OCD was really bad I use to have really angry moments, like wanting to physically shove people away from me when I was in a shopping centre and people passing got too close. But it wasn't because I actually wanted to hurt them, it was just because I was ill and felt like I wanted to DO something. I also had a lot of anger right after I was first depressed - I think it's a natural reaction to feeling so sad and out of control. Like you say, it feels better than being sad, so I think your body/brain gives it to you as a coping mechanism, or just for some relief. Talking about things with someone - either the Samaritans or your doctor - might help you realise exactly what you're feeling and where it's directed. Which can really help in figuring out what you want to do about it - which makes it easier to do something about

[jslayeruk]

I've called the Samaritans a couple of times, neither of which were helpful. I very much got the sense that they were very busy and trying to get rid of me and onto the next call, which didn't help the feeling of being a waste of space. I've not used them since, didn't want to feel worse.

[girlofprey]

Oh, well that's a shame. I'm sure you weren't wasting their time - the ladies I spoke to said sometimes men call up just to jerk off, and I'm sure anything's a step up from that. But if it doesn't work for you, it doesn't work for you.

[carlyinrome]

For me, anger is something an antidepressant helps with. Call your pdoc?

[jslayeruk]

Eh. I'm already on meds for depression and anxiety. I had a dosage check about a fortnight ago, and my pdoc was apprehensive about changing anything. I could bring it up at my next appointment, but I wouldn't hold my breath.

[carlyinrome]

*hugs* Well, I hope you feel better. Let me know if there's anything I can do for you.

[jslayeruk]

I have upcoming appointments with my doctor and therapist, I intend to talk to both of them about this. Fingers crossed.