A moment of clarity

[jtwist]

These past couple of days have been rather trying. Anyone who read my previous entry is fully aware of the situation as it stood

Comments

[morgan_of_sixx]

There aren't many qualified relationship counselers on lj unfortunately.

[sactokaos]

My opinion on all this is that I can understand why she would be hurt for you to have a moment of mistrust in her. Especially if you two are gearing to make the ultimate commitment. On the same token, you shouldn't be apologizing for her mistakenly routed, and somewhat questionable, text message.

You took the "worst-case-scenario" from that mistake which isn't really a good thing, but it was the first thing that even I thought of when I first read it. I had to continue reading to put that idea aside.

You guys should just realize that you're both right AND wrong. Makes things easier.

Just tell her, "I tell ya what, I'll trust YOU... to double check who you are sending texts to." Haha!

I think all people completely trust the person they are in a relationship with until the other person gives them a reason to doubt the trust. The REAL problem is the REASON that places the doubt there and whether it's a legitimate REASON in the eyes of a rational human being. Know what I mean?

[crushdmb]

You're not in the wrong. People make mistakes. You've not had the best relationships in the past, so it makes sense you'll have a hiccup or two. It's not like you're being stubborn. You've apologized, admitted you were wrong, and promised to move forward. What else does she expect you to do? There's nothing left FOR you to do. Honestly, she's overreacting to your overreaction.

[mistressdesade]

I honestly would have thought the worst from that message as well. If she wants to be with you in marriage, it is for better or for worse. Everyone has baggage. You are willing to accept and help her with the neuropathy, your past is your cross to bear that she should be willing to help you deal with and put behind you. Any rational human being can understand how that message could make even the most trusting of souls flinch for a moment. She needs to realize that your reaction was a product of HER actions as well as your past. If she is not capable of seeing that and reacting accordingly, than she will not be able to endure the "for worse" part of the vows. From someone who has been married for almost 8 years, your reaction is a MINOR incident. It is also one which I feel you were completely justified in to begin with. Don't keep apologizing, it is her turn to realize that you were the one hurt by her actions. She needs to take a step back and honestly think of how she would have felt and reacted had she received a similar message.