Comments | julesk: Unscientific Poll

julesk

Unscientific Poll

Apr 15, 2006 21:29

Have any of your parent's expressed the expectation that you will take care of them when they get older? As in, that you should buy a house now (parent being 56) that has enough land so that another house can be built on your property for them so that when they want you to, you will start "taking care of them"? Not that they need someone to take ( Read more... )

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vilejynx April 16 2006, 02:48:24 UTC

It hasn't really come up -- when my mom was alive, I think there was an assumption that she would have to go into assisted living if something happened to my dad; she couldn't negotiate the stairs in our house, and so forth... My dad's parents lived with mine when they could no longer live in their own house, before they went to nursing homes, but I don't really know what my dad's assumptions are. Interesting question...

vilejynx April 16 2006, 20:22:25 UTC

Yeah, it was much better this morning once we all sat down to discuss expectations. Glad this came up so that we could all get on the same page.

bluemeg April 16 2006, 06:45:32 UTC

Um well she is related to Todd... :) but seriously my parents havent said anything like this too me. but i think they value their independence too much to want to live like on the same property as i do...

bluemeg April 16 2006, 20:20:43 UTC

Yeah, I have no doubt that Steve's folks value their independence too much!

tyratae April 16 2006, 14:26:39 UTC

my dad's getting a bigger place than he needs right now in case *i* need taking care of. nobody asked him to; he was looking for a new place right about the time my life started getting messy, & so he added a bedroom or two to his search criteria ( ... )

julesk April 16 2006, 20:19:48 UTC

That's the exact issue. It was not b/c she couldn't take care of herself but rather that she didn't want to be alone anymore.

We had a long talk today about how Todd and I will be there when she "needs" us but not until she truly needs us and not at the expense of Joshua's well being.

tyratae April 16 2006, 21:24:10 UTC

not at the expense of Joshua's well being

that much is a given, & one i'm sure she'd agree w/you about!

julesk April 16 2006, 22:48:15 UTC

Yup, we started from there and the rest of the discussion once we both agreed that was a ground rule.