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[juliamon]

I had a really involved Wakfu dream last night, with the entire Brotherhood somehow ending up in a castle where Tristepin actually grew up and his parents were there and meanwhile he'd accidentally been put in the body of some animal like Igole and not everyone realized it, and I was him. I can't really remember specifics since that's how dreams

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[yohkochan]

Well I WAS planning to go with mom to help but since I've already been bitched out for not doing it, I guess I shouldn't.

[lapinguina]

I don't want to get involved in an argument here, and I know that this is a really tough time for both of you and this shit sucks to have to deal with. At the same time though, it's not constructive at all to be misplacing (both of) your anxieties/upsetness on each other. This is one of those things you guys need to stick together as a family to face, not start throwing crap around to upset each other. It is probably best to forget either of you said anything of that sort and for D to go as planned. There is no use holding grudges over something like this.

I love you both and I'm really sad now to hear this, especially when I'm not there to try to help. Hang in there as much as you can. Just remember it's not either of your faults, and blaming each other and getting upset at each other isn't going to help you when you need to get through it together.

If there is anything I can do, or if you want to come down to the city and hang out all day, please let me know.

Hugs x4000... I love you both.

[juliamon]

I know, it was a pretty childish snipe, but at the same time I had no reason to believe otherwise. She refused to pick me up from work yesterday, and whenever I tried to talk to her she stormed away (sometimes with a FUCK YOU attached) and slammed the door behind her. Sometimes she left the house entirely. It's hard to talk to someone who refuses to communicate. At the same time my disability makes it so that it's hard for me to think of what to say on the spot, so instant replies tend to default to snarky or inflammatory in order to buy myself some time to think of the correct reply, I guess. Because she doesn't have the patience to wait for me to think of the correct one right away. I don't think she realizes how much it hurts the rest of us to see her so upset, I start crying even just imagining her crying.

If we can come down we'll try, but I think it might be better to leave you and Bobby to have your own time and not have to worry about us. We'll make it through this somehow.

[lapinguina]

Our own time can be pretty stressful with apartment and job crap going on, plus he's at work all day so I mostly just hang out online until dinnertime anyway. So seriously, you would not be inconveniencing me/us at all (except making me get out of bed, which is probably a good thing) to come hang out. We can get food in Chinatown! If you don't want to, that is perfectly okay with me, but if it would help to get out and do stuff, please don't decide against it on my account. <3

I know both of you have your own emotional issues, and I think in general your entire family has immense difficulties with communication. I totally, 100% understand that. I'm just trying to be as gentle as I can in saying that you're all under immense stress right now, and maybe should be writing off irritability/meanness to that instead of arguing about it.