I'm glad my father-in-law is dead....

[julie_liebling]

because otherwise I would do him a serious injury.

I can't win with him, even from his grave he's still being a bastard to me.

Tonight it was the annual fireworks party at Karl's sister's house.  Lovely evening, mother-in-law said hello asked after my health etc, even though she will never understand me or truly care for me, I can deal with that!

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[schlaggy]

How sad that he has put those thoughts into their minds ...poisened them..urgh !

So mother-in-law isn't great towards you also I take it. *hugs*

I don't know why ppl are like that. Perhaps they hoped Kal would marry Princess Dianna or sth ?

Oh Yes, I feel for you, that is horrible and must make you feel awful..that can bring friction between you and Karl also...sorry it is like that for you !!! &hearts

I was so lucky that all inlaws got on with everyone.

Don't think about the old fuckwit..don't let him get to you..SO not worth it. Just think of your beaautiful family and loving hubby.

And Till...hehehe

[julie_liebling]

Mother-in-law is more confused by me than anything, so not having much to do with me is her way of dealing with it. She has always accepted Kirsty as a grand-daughter right from the very beginning, which is really the main thing.
She always said that Suzy was her first granchild as she was born before Karl knew me and Kirsty but that Kirsty was her eldest grandchild, which is logical.
But she has said to me before now that I'm not the type of woman she would have chosen for Karl but he seems happy enough with me, I felt as if I'd been semi approved of. LOL

Oh well. I'll get over this and bounce back, having truly wonderful friends on here and V! helps me to put the crap of life behind me and I hope that I'm able to help back sometimes.

Thank you, sweetie for your lovely words and help.

x x x x x x

[mutter12]

Ohhhh sweetie I feel so much for you

It must be terrible to be haunted out of the grave by f-i-l
Both in laws must have had very high expectations, and luckily Karl( being a wise man) choose you.

I have spent some time with the both of you and you are a great and loving cpl.

And Ju you haven't done anything to deserve this, but against ppl like that there is a no win situation.

It must have so hurtful when there ppl thinking that they can and might say anything out of revenge or just pure malice.

I'm here for you.

See you later in chat?

[julie_liebling]

Thank you for your kind words and support.
He was a truly horrible man when he was alive and I'd hoped that I could put his malice and spite into perspective once he was dead, I was able to for most of the time and it got easier as time went by. But to have done this to small children and it now explains the way they used to behave towards me and Kirsty and Jon. I find that totally unforgivable, but I'm not going to waste my time and energy hating him, he is not worth it.

See you in chat later, sweetie
x x x x x x xx

[lipsty]

Ches is a c**t.

I'll call you when I'm not so upset.

I love you.

[julie_liebling]

Darling, I never meant for this post to upset you.
I was sort of half listening to Robert's drunken talk and then he came out with this. He wasn't being malicious, it's just he believed the lies he was fed right from very young, so he had no chance really. Plus, he's not as bright as Suzy, who can tell Jonjo is your Dad's just by looking at them.

Yes, Ches was a C**T, not just to me but to four children as well as his own children, so the toll of his vicious spite mounts up.
BUT we are better than him and we will put it behind us, and he is dead which is a good thing for all of us, including your Dad and Aunty Heather.

I love you too, with all my heart.
x x x x x x x x

[lipsty]

Ches just makes me so angry. It's ok, I'm not upset now - just so bloody angry!

[julie_liebling]

Read blackcat's reply below, she has given us another way to look at Ches and his spitefulness.

I'm still angry and hurt, but I will get over it.

Mum x x x x x

[impoogie]

I say we dig the old fucker up and bitch slap him!!!

How fucking rude a thing for him to do/say and what an awful thing for you to have to hear at a social gathering.

Sweetie - you are worth more than that. I hope that you are not taking it out on Karl but I hope you told him so that he knows and maybe he could straighten out his family in the meantime on the truth.

With love
xoxoxoxo

[julie_liebling]

We could dig him and bash his head with the spade...... but he really isn't worth all our time and energy......... how about we go out and get pissed instead!!!!

I've had a good cry on Karl's shoulder about it and I'm still hurt and angry but I will put it behind me, I think I need to speak to Robert and put him straight though.

[impoogie]

Yes - I like the drinking bit. Drinking is good - but not with spades because we might go to raise our glasses and knock each other out.

[julie_liebling]

Drinking's good, I'm just putting away my spade.

[0blackcat0]

Hugs Ju, what an horrible old man he must have been, poisoning minds like that. You're better and way above him, don't let him upset you still, just put him out of your mind as the spiteful vindictive fool he was.
The way I often feel about people like that - its a sort of compliment if they don't like you, if they did it'd mean you're on the same mind level as them.

[julie_liebling]

Thank you for you kind words and for giving me another angle in which to look at this. It was such a horrible thing to do to children whose minds were completely open and vunerable. It has coloured their whole relationship with Karl, me and our children. Suzy (niece) is a lot more intelligent than Robert and has made her own judgement.
Robert, I'm not sure how he ticks but he was very drunk and I think I need to have a word with him when he's sober, and put him straight on a few things, to try and undo some of the damage.