Comments | juliekate: I believe in silence

juliekate

I believe in silence

Aug 09, 2004 22:07

You need to know something. Chances are, it'll bounce right off you, but I want to hope.

I accept you exactly as you are. I know your faults, and I know your greatness. And I accept you and love you just as you are now. I would never try to change you...I would never cheapen the good times by constantly and cruelly highlighting the bad. I think ( Read more... )

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satanscientist August 10 2004, 14:48:17 UTC

Man, crushing her like an eggshell, miss.

juliekate August 10 2004, 17:51:42 UTC

So she and I were meant to part ways...why fight it? Where is the constructive purpose in that? Maybe it says something that I have no problem divorcing myself from her. Maybe I'm a cold snake, maybe I never liked her and I hate her now and I am purposely trying to cut her by firing her....or, just maybe, I've tried everything I could think of to make our fucked up relationship work, and I've earned my way out with a clear conscience and lack of malice ( ... )

satanscientist August 11 2004, 08:40:08 UTC

Just saying, when you make an enemy, ma'am, you crush them completely and vindicivly. They turn into wind on the street.. *woosh*.

Everyone just wants to watch a fight, the rubberneckers. Pain, espicially the emotional kind, isn't too fun for the participants.

juliekate August 11 2004, 08:44:54 UTC

I'm still not following. Are you saying you think I'm being cruel by being forgiving and letting it go?

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misswitch1369 August 15 2004, 11:18:45 UTC

Hello! I found your journal through a random search. I am in a similar situation with my former best friend. Your words describe very well what I feel. I haven't talked to her in about 3 years, but the hurt is still there. Hope you don't mind me being nosy.

juliekate August 15 2004, 14:17:14 UTC

Hey how are you? I'm sorry to hear you're going through a rough time...that's the great/awful thing about friends. They can make you feel great and horrible at the same time.

3 years is a long time to keep carrying around pain. I don't know what your situation is, but letting a past event still get to you could mean you never really dealt with it.

It's actually kind of liberating to admit "Hey, I fucked up. Yeah she did X, Y and Z but I did A, B and C to her. I didn't mean to, but I did, and that's my responsibility." Do what you can to own your part of the fiasco. You don't even have to talk to her...just own up to it with yourself in private, forgive yourself and move on with the promise that you'll try not to consciously do that to someone else ( ... )