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[jup_reindeer]

Poll Friend vs. Fun.Ugh. I just got around to checking the date of CaliFur. It would HAVE to overlap with the wedding plans of a very old and dear friend of mine. It's his first wedding and they've been together for at least two years...probably three to four. So, I think it's going to last. Thing is...it occurs in a different state. Many more hours of driving then

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[avon_deer]

I'd suggest the fur con, but ONLY because it's already been paid for. Your friend will understand. Send him a gift though.

[jup_reindeer]

I was leaning towards that. Until, my friend called the other day with information about ride sharing and such. Now, I'm up in the air. Got a few more days to think on it, though.

[milesamatthias]

To try and avoid the biased answer (due to my mass dislike of Califur), this is what I'll say:

Forget the cost of Califur right now, that's not even important. I'm assuming the cost you're losing is only the membership; which if so, you may not even lose that. Most cons you can e-mail them to transfer membership to someone else (a.k.a. someone can buy your membership from you). So let's just throw that part out the window for this.

The real questions are: How important is the wedding, and is it affordable enough (obviously it'll be a little pricy) that it doesn't damage you to go. If either/both of these lean decently high, I would strongly consider the wedding over a con. The wedding is a one-time shot. There are more cons; [in theory] Califur will be there next year, Antheria's later in the year, and of course FC.

That's my two cents on this.

[jup_reindeer]

I was thinking similar. One of the key points was the harsh drive up/attend/drive back to return to work, right afterwards. This guy has a lot of friends down here that are attending. So, transportation may be arranged rather easily and the gas bill cut way down. I could search Motels.com for a good rate at a decent place. Though, it's not Vegas with super cheap/semi-nice room deals. And, I really doubt to make the batchelor party...which is some sort of gun fest. (Warned to expect $400 in ammo purchases.) Kind of hard, when I might be facing a large bill of a new car...possibly. And, if work presses my schedule, it'll still be hard to make time ends meet...which is something else the con would not do. I mean, when I did Vegas, work actually extended my days off. (So cool and unexpected.) But, I can't count on it happening twice. For sure, I can count on the paycheck being absorbed into it all. Been pre-warned to set aside $800 for everything. At least, I won't be dead tired.

[donkeyears]

You need to drop the idea of which one is the right one to attend. There is no question which one is right one to attend. The wedding is the right choice because its your social responsibility to a dear friend.

The real question is can you afford to go to the wedding. That is what you need to decide. If you can "reasonably" afford to go you should.

If in the end you can not "reasonably" afford to go to the wedding you can in good conscious go to Califur.

If you attend the wedding or not you need to give them a gift.

[jup_reindeer]

I've been pre-warned that the Batchelor party is going to be some sort of mass gun firing event. That, alone, is expected to run $400 a person to attend. Expect the room to run another $110. The ride/fuel could be slashed to a fractional $50. (I may even have the option to fly. One of his friend's is flying up in a one engine plane.) However, it's work's tight leash that is the true problem. I already got the three days off. But, if I am out of control on travel...and they rob me of the traditional two day weekend, (Mon/Tues) then I'll be forced to fake a cold...or something. Also told to expect nicer clothes. Though, I have been planning on purchasing a Tux, anyhow...

If only I could just teleconference...from the con. :)

[donkeyears]

I am getting the idea that he has good money and expects others to be in the same boat. From his expectations of peoples willingness to spend a great deal to be at his wedding that you could opt out because of fanatical restraints. Just remember to send a gift.

[jup_reindeer]

What I have decided to do is bank the transportation of another on whether or not I attend. Both our work schedules are very tight and if he's not going, then I'm not driving up, alone. As for this rather unique and expensive batchelor party...well, I certainly won't be up there in time to attend that. Besides, this guy used to (and probably still does) pack his own shell casings with gun powder. He's "that much" into weapons.

As for money...not really. He makes about the same as I do. But, he lives in "dirt poor" country. With nothing to do. So...he's got nothing to blow his paycheck on...so it seems.