"But in all seriousness, things are really great. I think the secret is to be best friends in addition to being spouses. Wanting to be around each other all the time, being able to talk for hours, able to tell each other anything, making tedious things fun, laughing at life - I think all that really makes the difference."
LoL. This is ironic I guess. I mean I totally agree, but if I look at John and I... we don't hang out or talk as fits my ideals on that statement. But we've also been together for 10 years and at this point our individual goals aren't matched. Normally I'd think this was a big deal. It is effecting the relationship, but they aren't goals that contradict each other or our values. So it works out. Plus most of that is stress.. major major stress... from buying a house, planning a wedding, career changes, family relations and health, and personal health. It's been a crazy last 5 years!
Hmmm... yum. Food for thought.
Glad to hear ya'll are doing well and I WANNA SEE WEDDING PHOTOS!
I'm not trying to say you need to be identical people for a relationship to work- I'm just saying I feel like we should treat our spouses with the same respect we would our best friend: honesty, not playing games, enjoying each others company, etc. I hope you don't think I was trying to say "you must agree on everything and have everything in common or its doomed," I just feel like there needs to be a mutual respect for each others goals, interests, priorities, to have a healthy relationship.
And I totally agree with the stress, the money and planning a wedding was a HUGE test of our relationship. Considering how much you and John went through already, you guys already know the dedication you have to each other :)
wah! I refuse to join myspace again... hence missing out on a lot of pics. Oh well. But if you ever feel up to it, send me your favorite pic of you in your wedding gear. :)
Otherwise, I totally got what you said.. it's just funny because that's my ideal too, it's just I'm not really living up to it word for word. I mean I know that if John and I weren't dating, we'd wouldn't be friends. {shrug} (mostly because he's antisocial and I'm waaay too social. So although I would talk to him, he wouldn't talk much to me and we're both really lazy about keeping in touch with people.)
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LoL. This is ironic I guess. I mean I totally agree, but if I look at John and I... we don't hang out or talk as fits my ideals on that statement. But we've also been together for 10 years and at this point our individual goals aren't matched. Normally I'd think this was a big deal. It is effecting the relationship, but they aren't goals that contradict each other or our values. So it works out. Plus most of that is stress.. major major stress... from buying a house, planning a wedding, career changes, family relations and health, and personal health. It's been a crazy last 5 years!
Hmmm...
yum. Food for thought.
Glad to hear ya'll are doing well and I WANNA SEE WEDDING PHOTOS!
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And I totally agree with the stress, the money and planning a wedding was a HUGE test of our relationship. Considering how much you and John went through already, you guys already know the dedication you have to each other :)
Pics are on Myspace.com/elaine242
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Otherwise, I totally got what you said.. it's just funny because that's my ideal too, it's just I'm not really living up to it word for word. I mean I know that if John and I weren't dating, we'd wouldn't be friends. {shrug} (mostly because he's antisocial and I'm waaay too social. So although I would talk to him, he wouldn't talk much to me and we're both really lazy about keeping in touch with people.)
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