Am I old now?

[just_jenni]

Of course I am old in age, being a retiree and a pensioner for going on 8 years now. But I've always maintained good health and I know I don't look my age, so I guess I've fooled myself into thinking I'm not as old as I am.

The fact that my poor husband is suffering from dementia didn't deter me from taking over his duties, even the physical ones

Comments

[wiseheart]

Oh love, I'm so sorry to hear the bad news! Definitely no more walking on ice, but it will take time for you to recover anyway. I'll think of you in my evening prayer - that's all I can do, but I'll do it with love.

[just_jenni]

Thank you so much.

[lenine2]

My heart goes out to you. You have an awful lot to deal with. But DO NOT GET ON A LADDER.

Your fear of going outside is real. You've had two nasty falls, and this latest one would have scared anyone into staying in. There is no shame in asking for help. When my dad's dementia was worsening we had a call with his neurologist's nurse. He told us of several support groups for my mother to contact (she never did because that just wasn't her thing), including services that would help out in various ways. Is that something you'd consider?

Meanwhile, rest and recover please!

[just_jenni]

Thanks so much! Sorry for the delayed reply. It's been two weeks since my fall, I still have a goose egg on the back of my head, but I've been out for a walk on a safe, paved, gravelly path and feel a lot better for it.

[just_jenni]

As for the support groups, I've tried a few, but hubby is very resistant. We do have a service that provides a worker to come and take him out for a few hours. That has helped.

[elwenlj]

Oh love! Maybe a move to an apartment, where you won't have to worry about exterior maintenance is an option to consider. I hesitate to suggest some kind of warden tended accommodation, but it may be a consideration to give you help with hubby, should he more difficult to live with in the future.

I hear you regarding the confidence thing. I reached a point last year, where I was nervous to walk any distance because of balance issues. Fortunately, I seem to have recovered some of that with the use of my new exercise machine.

[just_jenni]

I've been seriously thinking about moving to an apartment. I love this house though, so might try to tough it out for another year and see how it goes. Thank you! Exercise is very important.