Comments | justacat: What could suck enough to finally drive me to post...:-)

justacat

What could suck enough to finally drive me to post...:-)

Oct 30, 2008 13:31

I cannot believe how long it's been since I've posted - I barely even remember how to do it. I have so many things I haven't written about - I'm still apologizing to my local crew for not telling them about my broken rib, which happened more than a month ago now! - and there's horse stuff: how Doha's adjusting, Bodie updates, and new fun stuff I' ( Read more... )

horses

Comments 34

towerbridge2006 October 30 2008, 18:10:33 UTC

I'm so sorry that you are going through all this. Things are always worse when our beloved animals are involved.

I'm glad you aren't alone in dealing with the situation. At least the horses will have each other and you when their surroundings are changed.

I'm glad you shared this, and no you are not a fandom failure. We share the time we can when we are able.

Thanks for sharing. I look forward to seeing how the situation is resolved.
There is the possibility that the change will be a positive one. :)

Take care.

justacat October 30 2008, 20:50:30 UTC

Yes, things are always so much worse when our animals are involved...like I said to kassrachel, horses make it especially difficult; they are so large and unwieldy, and so delicate, for all their size. They are creatures of habit, and moving them, making any changes to their lives, upsets them tremendously - not to mention that it isn't easy, logistically! And I feel so responsible for them... Luckily, Carolyn feels the same way, and she's as devoted to my horses (she's known each of them since I got them, been involved in each purchasing decision, and rides each of them at least twice a week), and to Oz, as she is to her own ( ... )

nakeisha October 30 2008, 18:14:06 UTC

I'm so sorry to hear about the situation. How dreadful to have that dropped on you with so little time to sort something out.

I really do hope you can find something that fulfills as many, if not all, of your list.

justacat October 30 2008, 20:52:29 UTC

Thanks so much - I really appreciate your support and good wishes. It is really terrible to have so little time to work out a solution, but I'm hoping we find something we all can live with, and most important, where the horses are happy...

shayheyred October 30 2008, 18:21:05 UTC

Aaaaggh! I'm experiencing my own "feelings of anger" on your behalf. The utter gall of these people cannot be believed. And the way they talk! Yuck. We have a person here who does a bit of that, some "I hear you say you are distressed; now what can we do about that?" kinds of stuff - generally the response is "stop being such a jerk." But you've got all sorts of things to consider, and I wish you luck in finding a speedy answer.
[[[hugs you and your horsies tight]]]

justacat October 30 2008, 21:02:38 UTC

LOL! Yes, you've got it exactly. That's exactly the sort of person I was trying to describe - taken to the nth degree; I mean, I imagine your person there doesn't go so far as to claim that the horses talk to her/him. It's really quite unbelievable. J and I always remark on how amazing it is that our horses never talk to them (J says, and it's a good thing, because think of what our horses would tell them about the things we say about them! *g*). So they'll say - Horse X told us she'd rather be in Kris's stall, so we switched her and Kris (Carolyn's stallion). And we wonder - well, what did Kris think about this? Did you ask him? What did he tell you?

But of course, they don't allege that Kris talked to them. It's such utter hypocrisy. I mean, if you're going to believe that the horses talk to you, fine - but in that case, why wouldn't they all talk to you? They just use that as a tool to avoid taking responsibility for their own actions ("We wanted to move Horse X into Kris's stall, so we switched them, I hope that's okay ( ... )

sanj October 30 2008, 18:37:04 UTC

Oh, what a frustrating mess. I'm so sorry, for you and for the horses.

"I'm afraid we are going to have to stop this discussion, because all I'm getting from you are feelings of anger..."

No KIDDING, Deanna Troi. *eyeroll* I'm still astonished by people who can manage to be this passive-aggressive. Yeesh.

justacat October 30 2008, 21:10:59 UTC

No KIDDING, Deanna Troi. *eyeroll*

LOL! Yeah, that's exactly what I was trying to express. I mean - "I feel anger coming from you" - aren't you the brilliant therapist! It's funny - as I commented to someone up above, part of the whole purpose of using horses in social work/psychotherapy is to help kids get in touch with their own feelings, including, or perhaps especially, anger, but apparently it's not acceptable for people to feel anger when it's directed at her! And the idea of accepting responsibility for the consequences of her own behavior, and facing it head on...not part of her repertoire (much less not acting like an asshat to begin with ( ... )

heliophile_oxon October 30 2008, 19:36:34 UTC

I think hats off are due to you for not succumbing to the urge to throttle this manipulative passive-aggressive so-called therapist. People who treat their fellow human beings in this way have no business working with the vulnerable - except maybe that's exactly why they do it, because it makes them feel so good - and so powerful and so healthy .... ugh.
Good luck in finding a better place for all the horses!

justacat October 30 2008, 21:20:02 UTC

The fact that we were talking by telephone probably went a long way toward saving her neck, I must say. It's funny - almost ever since I met her I've been describing her, and many of the others who work there, as passive-aggressive, manipulative, and hypocritical, all in the guise of being well-meaning and interested in your emotional welfare (and the emotional welfare of the horses), blah blah blah ( ... )