Am I being selfish and/or petty?

[kageokami666]

So something that has been crossing my mind alot as I am getting closer to turning 30 in January is how unfair (not sure if that is the word I really want to use) the world is for single people.

Like right now my sister is pregnant and wants me to throw her a baby shower.  I really don't want to (because I am lazy) and I am not in the financial

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[aprilraven]

Ruu and I agree, not selfish at all to feel this way! The world isn't exactly the most giving to single people, but I won't go into detail as to why people give money and things to people getting married or having children... >>

As for the party thing, you don't have to go all out. Ask her for a list of her friends and their phone numbers. Decide on a time, and invite them. Bake and decorate a cake yourself; no one says it has to be special ordered.

That's your gift, the time you've invested in this party - inviting the guests, getting the news out, baking the cake. That's it.

[kageokami666]

Yeah my sister shows me all these pintrist things and pictures of all these elaborate things so she makes me feel like that is what I would have to do.

And my dad's family is big (has 5 siblings) so if I invite cousins theres like 20 of them alone and some have like 4 kids of their own the numbers get really big really fast.

As for weddings and baby gifts I know a lot of it is tradition and social norms

[aprilraven]

How about a restaurant? A lot of places have private/semi-private rooms for large groups. Or if you have a church, see about their social hall. Ask people to bring a dish/dessert to share, make it a potluck. And you are under no obligation to go with Pinterest. Go with balloons and streamers, some pretty paperware, ec. With that much family? Definitely ask them to chip in on this. There is no reason why you and you alone should foot the bill for her party.

[kageokami666]

Hmm potluck could work.

I know I am probably feeling testy with her right now because all this week I have been sick but staying late at the office to try and get all the returns done while she leaves on time (using her pregnancy as an excuse she is not even showing at this point). And this is just one more bit of stress I would rather not deal with but she wants to saddle me with.

I think I'm going to take a big handful of vitamin D when I get home since I have not been getting like any sun light and apparently low vitamin D can cause depression to come back or get worse

[mmouse15]

You're not being selfish at all. I agree with aprilraven, it doesn't have to be expensive or over the top. Streamers, balloons, and a self-baked cake are plenty.

I don't understand why your choices aren't as valued as your sister's.