So what is YOUR type?
Girls are quite popular with their lists. Lists of prospectives. Lists of qualities they would like in someone. I don't think I am alone in this regard.
When I moved to NJ last fall, I thought, well, now I have time-- I can get back into dating. I am not working a gazillion jobs to pay the rent, and going to class, and in this organization or that organization, like I was the last few years. Except I didn't really know anyone, or the area. Of course, I never really "dated"-- who "dates" in college? You meet people through friends or class or whatever, and things just happen.
But who would I want to date? Do I have a type? My bfs in college were typical of my friends at CMU: this one works at Intel, this one is doing math research, this one is getting his PhD in Electrical Engineering and this one is a consultant. But am I narrowing myself too much? Perhaps I never gave myself a chance to find out what really is my type.
I always liked to browse personals. I think it's interesting how people portray themselves, and break themselves down by interests, hobbies, etc. A friend of a friend was into lavalife, and so I thought I would give that a try, as well as yahoo personals. I viewed it as another avenue for meeting people in NJ.
Although I joined, I didn't really do anything concrete (i.e. meeting up) until late spring. I guess I was a little dubious about meeting someone I really never met before. And by that time, I had already met plenty of people through NJYP and friends. But I figured I would still give it a shot. I was optimistic about opening myself up to possibly different types of people and meeting more people. Even though I knew I now had time to date, I was now enjoying that time as a single person. So I didn't expect anything of my efforts, or for that matter, didn't want anything.
Well, anyway, 6 months and lots of interesting stories later, I am sick of the whole scene. I didn't have too many "meet-ups", but they were all fairly awkward no matter what. It's just better to meet people when it's not one-on-one like that-- and much safer. And besides, all the people start to look alike after awhile. The personals are filled with guys who are insecure about why they are there by saying "it's come to this" or "i'm not good at this kind of stuff", or whatever....or men who do not understand the concept of singular or plural by saying "I am looking for a special women".
And there is this one question that all the guys on personals like to ask, that's really my pet-peeve. You are going to laugh. The guy always pauses, and then goes "So what is your type?" Alright, buddy-- do you think I would really tell you? Believe me, if you were my type, this horrible poker-face would definitely show it. Just Sunday night, literally hours after I threw in the towel on the personals by terminating my accounts, someone I met on Yahoo who happens to live in my complex asked me that question on IM. He said he thought my friends were pretty ecletic. He's only met one friend!! Arghh.