Long-Ass Rant

[kagome_angel]

This is an entry that I am neither placing under a cut nor friends-locking. If I step on someone's toes, frankly, I don't give a fuck. This is my journal, and I'm going to fucking speak my mind. I will sometimes refrain from doing that in order to "keep the peace" and in order to keep from causing conflict, because I hate conflict. But you know

Comments

[brooke]

You are such a beautiful person. ♥ All of this... I wish you had put a reblog button so I could just stick it all in my journal. This is perfect.

[kagome_angel]

*cuddles* Thank you, sweetie. <33333 I obviously had a lot on my chest and I feel much better now for letting it go. Maybe some folks are offended, like that anon up above, but oh well. XD They didn't have to read it.

I know you can probably relate to what I posted, and that means a lot to me too, to know that I am not alone in this. ^_^

[enemytosleep]

Well this resonates a lot with me, being in a queer/het relationship (or whatever people want to label it - I'm bi and he's straight). I struggle with the guilt for hiding behind a "straight" label when it suits me to. I know I shouldn't hide my identity, but I'm also sure I'm not the only bisexual in an opposite-gendered relationship that is occasionally grateful not to need those discussions who can hide behind false presumptions. The older I get, the less I find I care either way (it's my life after all), but people are so judgmental it's not been easy. Anyway, you know I'm behind you on these issues and I thank you for being so strongly out. It's good encouragement for me to get over my hang ups and to be more honest with the people around me.

[kagome_angel]

That's the kind of relationship I am in too. I am bi and my husband is straight, but he is very much okay with my orientation. The thing is, I hide the fact that I am bisexual from my family. The only one who would be okay with it in my family, I believe, is my sister. So, I don't get shit from my family (whom I love very much), but at the same time, it's kind of uncomfortable for me to hide this part of myself, you know? It's a whole lot easier for me to be who I am with friends and online. It's like I feel less judgment. However, after some of the things some people have said to me or assumed about me (especially people that I figured knew me and were comfortable with who I am), I just don't know. But I had to get all of this out because it was driving me crazy.

Thank you. <3 I do appreciate your support. ^_^

[synchroshatter]

I'm completely with you on this. Everything you said pretty much hit the mark dead on. Love is love, and discriminating against people based on sexual orientation (amongst other things) is never going to be OK, no matter who it's directed towards. I'm sorry you've had to put up with all this and it's a real shame people feel the need to be bastards about it all, but I think it's great that you're happy with your identity and your husband's cool with it too, because that's all that should matter. *hugs*

[kagome_angel]

*hugs tightly* Wow, I didn't expect such positive feedback but it is certainly welcome! Here I was thinking I was just venting and maybe making an ass of myself to other people because of all the pent-up anger. XD; Absolutely, it's not okay for people to discriminate against anyone. It's stupid and it's childish and so very ignorant. Have I mentioned that I hate ignorance? XDXDXD

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[bubblegumtotchi]

*hugs tight and applauds* So very well said, darling. Bravo. I heartily second this. Gay, straight, bisexual, transgender, lesbian, male, female... NONE of that matters. There is no "better" love. Love is love, plain and simple. I don't really identify with any of those. If pressed into a pigeonhole, I'd have to go with either pansexual or asexual. Which does not exclude the potential for love.Love transcends all boundaries. One of my favorite quotes from a book, ever, is "Where there is love, form does not matter, and the gods are pleased." I love it so much cuz it's so fitting. Love is ALWAYS a beautiful thing.

[kagome_angel]

*hugs hugs hugs* <33333333333333333 Haha, oh man, I pretty much thought you were bisexual too, honey. Goes to show what I know, huh? XD But what the hell do labels matter, anyway? ^________^ You are who you are, and you are wonderful as you are!

[bubblegumtotchi]

*snugs* <33333333 Don't worry, you weren't completely off-base. LOL I have identified as bisexual for many years. And, I guess, technically. it still fits, in that, when sex factors into things, yes, I'm just as physically attracted to both genders. I've just been doing a lot of self-reflection the past couple of years, and come to the realization that, for me, it's not about physical attraction. Sex is more of an after-thought, really. It's not high up on my priority list. More important is emotional and mental bonding. (not surprisingly, it was one of my gay friends that helped me come to the realization that, really, pansexual was a better fit for me... my pet ghei boi, actually :P - long story LOL) But yes, labels are so last century. :P I am who I am, just as you are who you are, and that is the most awesomest thing that you can be! Never change who you are, cuz you are the perfect you. <33333333333

[kagome_angel]

*nodsnods* I get that; I am the type that has to be emotionally attached to someone to have sex with them (that doesn't mean that I don't find another person physically attractive, etc., but I think you know what I mean). Emotions come first.

Thank you, sweetie. You are the perfect you, too! <3333333333

[amy]

hi! i don't know you, but i saw this in brooke's journal, clicked it out of curiosity because obviously something she thought was important enough to promote would be something i wanted to read and i just have to say this was an amazing thing to read. i'm kind of at a loss for words trying to think of something to say in this comment because a lot of it kind of stunned me! the last thing the queer community needs is us turning on each other and the thought that it happens the way you described it makes me kind of sick, even if i am less surprised that this happens than i'd like to be. i honestly hope i never have to come across someone who thinks that way about bisexuals.

i wish you a lifetime of happiness in your marriage. ♥

[kagome_angel]

*waves* Hello there! Thank you so much for reading and for commenting, because this is an issue that I am sure is important to a lot of people, myself included. These words had been stirring around in my mind and in my heart for some months now, and I think seeing that thing about making straight marriage illegal was the straw that broke the camel's back.

It makes me sick too, and I was actually very surprised about it, especially at how a particular person views me right now. It hurts a lot, and it literally makes me nauseated. Unfortunately, yeah, as you can tell by this comment and my post, I have come across someone who apparently views me as a bad person because of my sexuality. At least, that's definitely how she's acting towards me.

Thank you so very much. <3333333