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kain6727

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Feb 03, 2006 23:03

Ok kids, this again requires some crowd participation so everyone needs to chime in on it.

I want all of your views on trust and what you do when someone has broken it, and if there is any way to go back afterwards. I haven't updated in quite a while so i want to see a rousing show of interaction here.

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blackfluffymilk February 4 2006, 05:08:22 UTC

in my opinion trust is a vital component to all close -healthy- relationships(family,friends,etc) it is something that has to be earned after a certain basic level. and once broken, unless they can fully prove they still deserve trust, it is shattered.

there you go.

arighim February 4 2006, 05:40:15 UTC

I think you know my view on trust.

Trust is the color of a dark seed growing.
Trust is the color of a heart's blood flowing.
Trust is the color of a soul's last breath.
Trust is the color of death.

erparus February 4 2006, 06:46:20 UTC

I think that when someone does everything in their power to show change, you should accept that. If you fall for someone you fall for their imperfections too. I agree with 'blackfluffymilk' that unless they prove they want your trust, then they are worth nothing. What more can this person do to earn the trust that they so desperately attempt to acheive?

samsara_sumwear February 4 2006, 07:29:23 UTC

That's hard. Of course it's a difficult thing to truly get back and it takes time. But ask yourself this:
Have I ever broken trust and been truly sorry? Have I ever fucked up badly and hurt someone and wished to God I could go back and change it? None of us are perfect. The lines are grey. it's one of those understanding the rules to know if and when they can be broken and mended in my mind. It's still very hard and really individualistic.

samsara_sumwear February 4 2006, 07:30:09 UTC

Also, if the answer is NO, accept that because honesty is best and if you don't see yourself being able to trust them, that's how it is. A hard reality but it's still reality. Best of luck.

arsenala13 February 4 2006, 09:30:29 UTC

I donno wher you are running with this but here's a bit of thought

If someone fucks you over to the point of shutting doen yourself for more than a day, break them down and throw them a way.

Between mates, tho. That's different. Go to a bar, get smashed, and start a brawl over the tab. If the transgressor submits and pays, all is forgiven.