Comments | kaiponohea: Fear and Trust

kaiponohea

Fear and Trust

Jan 29, 2006 12:31

renshaw63 wrote: “Fear holds all of us back. We are afraid to accept realities within ourselves, our feelings for others, the truth of those who love.

“Is anyone else sick of being afraid? Could this be why we are here on these boards, not completely but for the most anonymous? Without revealing too much, we can bring forward our truth without fear?”Last ( Read more... )

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chering January 29 2006, 22:02:48 UTC

Interesting. If LJ posters are mostly anonymous, I guess the ladies of the Discussion Group and I are rare. We met on the showtime messsage board and anybody who wanted to know anything about us could probably find out in about 5 minutes. With all of the crazies who are surfing the net, I guess that could be a risky thing but my experience has been that the Queer as Folk family is a loving one. I have been very lucky and through it, I continue to meet great people...like you!

kaiponohea January 30 2006, 02:32:42 UTC

Thanks for the compliment, cher. I agree--there are many genuinely nice people here in the QAF family. I've gotten much more trusting as I've gotten older but still find it difficult. Would you characterize yourself as a generally trusting person? It sounds like it. So maybe some folks are just more that way, for whatever reason.

What do you think?

chering January 30 2006, 02:57:44 UTC

Definitely. I have had this conversation with my son-in-law a number of times. He thinks my daughter and I are nuts to travel the way we do and stay with people we have never met face to face. I told him I raised my kids to assume that people are basically good until they prove themselves otherwise. So far, that has turned out to be true for me. I also think I can read people fairly quickly and if I get bad vibes from them I don't pursue the relationship.

fansee January 30 2006, 03:28:58 UTC

I'm another Discussion Grouper, and if I am trusting now, it is because I got involved with an earlier fandom, that of the author, Dorothy Dunnett. Her readers corresponded via a round robin newsletter, in those pre-Internet days, and when Dorothy was finally persuaded to hold a meeting, I went with great trepidation. What I met were...not just ordinary, intelligent people...but soul-mates, friends to this day. So, as soon as I saw the last episode then out, I went hunting for the current equivalent of that old round robin newsletter. I knew Cher and Pepino and you and _alicesprings and renshaw and a host of other people were out there; I just had to find you. When I did, I wasn't afraid to meet you. Sure, part of that is the risk-taker in me, but part was experience. I think you'll find yourself becoming more open to new experiences as you build on good ones. I can't begin to describe how infinitely my life has been enriched by my willingness to trust. As a result, I've had a great life, an exciting, expansive life, and it's ( ... )