if it's " in a nutshell" does that make me the nut
ED= Eldest Demon
LG= Little Guy
At the beginning of the year I did not know if I was going to make it without ending up on a roof or in a straightjacket. After years of putting it off for financial reasons I finally got the divorce. Ok so my hand was forced right before x-mas last year and had to fight to keep the little guy. It cost an arm and a leg but it was worth it. After that Drama was over then it was the land lord letting me know he was going to give the house we were living in to his son as a wedding present. And we had to be out by July 15th. Well we were out of there earlier. After a mad scramble to find a new house we found a perfect one in The Colony. Great house, 4 bedrooms, 2 bath, Tile and Hard wood floors in most of the house, a park 4 houses down for the kids and a small yard (less to mow).I think now I’m officially an adult…. I have a mortgage and everything. We started painting and fixing and planning and taking occasional loads to get situated. After feeling like I was in one of those home make over on a budget shows the house was ready to be moved in to. We moved as soon as the kids were out of school. As we were moving in the washer broke. I’m so glad HD gave us a Credit card, we ended up getting a new Washer, Dryer & Fridge(old one did not make it through the move). Next will be, Heater (ours is making an awful racket), Stove/Oven (on the same temp and time one day what ever you are baking comes out raw and the next is burned) and Dishwasher (poor design that breaks nails and hands). The other improvements planned for the next year are a patio cover of some type, and minor maintenance. The kids have made the transition to the new area well. Both have been mostly A & B students with out major behavior problems at school. ED has started her own ”pack” of friends that hang out at our home. All the neighborhood kids know if they show up I’ll feed them and “mom” them. Aparently there are a few families in the area that are a lot more dysfunctional that ours has been at it worst. LG is enjoying his “freedom” from his sister at school. They both seem to be much happier and healthier since the move.
In July I got a wild hair to see if I could find one of my best friends from High School. Google is my friend, I found him on the 2nd search page. I sent an email and within 24 hours I heard back and we have been in constant communication ever since. We started out as just catching up and keeping open communication about everything under the sun, religion, relationships, life, work and it finaly came out that we both had had a “thing” for each other way back in high school but since we were best friends we did not want to risk loosing the trust or the friendship by dating. Well we decided to get over that. We both were talking about what we were looking for in relationships and realized that we had been looking for each other in other people for years. I knew I loved him but I was so afraid that when he got down here it would feel like “kissing my brother” thankfully that was not an issue. In September he came down here for a visit from TN and things went so well in October he moved down here. Both kids decided he was “Cool” and fun and that they were ok with me dating him. We have found that where I am weak he is strong and vise versa. He has been great for the kids to see a calm, responsible, well mannered, trustworthy man around. E.D.(Eldest Demon) has taken him in confidence with all the stuff that since I’m a mom I “just would not understand” (such a teenager approach). The L.G. (Little Guy) is ecstatic that he is no longer so out numbered by females and that J is a “geeky, robot, puzzle” kinda guy that he can relate to. He is kinda disappointed that he is no longer considered “the man of the house”, he no longer gets to puff out his chest and proclaim his domain. He has not figured out that it was a way to make him feel that being male was not a bad thing in a house full of females. It really did not mean much more that acknowledging he was male and he was allowed to explore being male. We were not going to ask him to behave in a feminine manner to “fit in” although we were and are still trying to teach him self preservation skills of being a gentle man. In late November we announced to family and friends that we will be getting married May of 2006.
Over all the year has been wonderful!
I still have some debts to try to work off/out but hopefully those will be paid off in the next year.
The current idea for the wedding and reception is, married by JP (or equaling) on Monday May 1st and the reception on Saturday the 6th. The wedding will only be a few people (biological family) but the reception will be at the house in a lunch time open house, relaxed, potluck, kinda style. I think I can fit enough people in the house. We will see what happens… the idea is still just theory and subject to change a lot between now and then. I know we will be providing desert and snackish finger foods