Dude, I totally sympathize with you, and I agree that you shouldn't commit if you're still figuring out what you want, but the *entire point* of the type of people listed above is that they didn't know that they didn't know. They actually thought there was nothing to figure out, and up until then, there wasn't.
It's not like these are closet cases or people who weren't dealing. There was just a part of them that hadn't been stimulated yet. How do you expect someone to deal with something that isn't in their frame of reference. It's like expecting someone to have weathered the grieving process before anyone they've known has died. You can only prepare for so much, and as for the rest, you do the best you can and learn as you go. Asking more of people than that is not only unfair, it's just unrealistic.
I just chalk my...uneasiness...with the above point of view up to the fact that I'm a curmudgeonly homosexual set in my ways and unappreciative of change. Pansexuality and label-hating questioning/queer/what have you is just a state of being that I personally don't understand. I think it stems from most of the "undefined" people I've met just looking for an excuse to boink whoever they want, whenever they want.
I dunno, call me paranoid, but I just hope this line of thinking doesn't start the crazies thinking that conversion therapy actually works.
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It's not like these are closet cases or people who weren't dealing. There was just a part of them that hadn't been stimulated yet. How do you expect someone to deal with something that isn't in their frame of reference. It's like expecting someone to have weathered the grieving process before anyone they've known has died. You can only prepare for so much, and as for the rest, you do the best you can and learn as you go. Asking more of people than that is not only unfair, it's just unrealistic.
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I dunno, call me paranoid, but I just hope this line of thinking doesn't start the crazies thinking that conversion therapy actually works.
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