Comments | karmasoup: Keep Smiling, Keep Shining

karmasoup

Keep Smiling, Keep Shining

Feb 01, 2020 18:45

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I don’t have any friends. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not a total recluse or a social pariah or anything. My various media profiles each have a few hundred connections, though I’m regularly whittling them down from the several hundred they used to have, as I come to value closer relations the older I get, and I no longer see the point in ( Read more... )

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millysdaughter February 3 2020, 16:25:08 UTC

Making friends is hard.

karmasoup February 4 2020, 02:10:00 UTC

Actually, I don't have any trouble making friends at all, in fact, I might friends quite easily... it's keeping them through life changes that hasn't worked out so well.

sarcasmoqueen February 3 2020, 21:45:44 UTC

I really relate to this. Most of my life I had "best friends" come and go. Besides my sister, there has never been anyone who has been there for me since the first day of school or some other early time in life. And that's ok - the different friendships I've had throughout the years all taught me something.

It was only in my 40s that I got a group of girlfriends who I believe will be friends until we die. We don't see or speak to each other daily, but we've all proven to eachother in different ways that we are there for eachother.

karmasoup February 4 2020, 02:17:34 UTC

Well, I'm in my mid-40s now, so it's nice to know maybe there's still time to cultivate that. Also, good to have you back... looking forward to reading your contributions again.

nikkiii_brown February 4 2020, 13:25:31 UTC

I really enjoyed this read. I had a few best friends growing up, but after high school I only really stayed close to 1 of those friends. I have no desire to be close to anyone now though except for my husband and close family.

karmasoup February 5 2020, 01:05:30 UTC

I get that. I wouldn't mind having someone my husband could talk to about sports and podcasts that isn't me, and someone I could talk to about the movies he doesn't like and things he has no interest in, or occasionally enjoy karaoke, that sort of thing. All in all, though, in the grand scheme of life, it's less a longing - especially not while we're raising a little one - and more something that would be nice, but not real high on the priority list right now.

murielle February 4 2020, 19:37:29 UTC

Because of my disability, I haven't had much of a life at all for the past thirty-five years, social or otherwise. Because we moved around so much when I was a child making friends easily and quickly became an important survival tool, as did not pining for them when we were no longer in each other's vicinity. Because I am such a profound introvert I can survive all the other "becauses ( ... )

karmasoup February 5 2020, 01:08:00 UTC

I'm starting to think there are no real rules, and we just have to love the people who come into our lives while we have them. (With the exception of my Minion and my Firebird, of course... they're stuck with me forever! ;-)

alycewilson February 5 2020, 20:12:36 UTC

My college best friend and eventual roomie also decided we would be best friends before I ever would have said so. We've managed to stay friends, although we don't get together much, even now that we both live in the Philadelphia area. I think the best thing about her is that whenever I see her, it's like no time has passed at all. She's one of the few people in my life who always just took me the way I am, and me likewise with her.