Not All Heroes Wear Capes

[karmasoup]

MISFITS

I’m not in the habit of going around saying I have “daddy issues,” though, while I haven’t looked into any sort of official diagnosis, I will admit a professional who focuses on such things might be willing to apply a more formal variation on the term to describe some of my impulsively developed coping mechanisms as a result of learning

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[halfshellvenus]

(*I say in theory, because Minion doesn’t cool his jets very well - there’s always something he feels he should be doing.)
I can relate to this all too well. ;)

What a wonderful tribute to Minion, as a person, a husband, and a father, and to the relationship the two of you and your son share!

You are all truly blessed to have one another, and I say that with all spiritual agnostic meaning. :)

[karmasoup]

Thank you... I certainly do feel our son and me are blessed to have him, though I did intend for this piece to be about showcasing how his treatment of women is helping me be assured I will be able to raise a boy to respect women and treat them with dignity

[halfshellvenus]

I think the point about his treatment of women DOES come off as you intended, and will help a great deal in who your son becomes.

But since I have a husband like that myself (31 years now!), and my dad was an early feminist, that's more the norm for me than it is for most people. Which IS very lucky. :)

[karmasoup]

Oh, for sure, I most certainly didn't mean to suggest you were in that lot... I don't know anything about your Dad, but it's pretty apparent you've got one of the good ones in that kindhearted hubby of yours! ;-)

[d0gs]

Lovely tribute to Minion as a husband, father and as a person. He sounds like a great guy!

[karmasoup]

Thank you... he certainly is, though, I had hoped my piece was less of a tribute to my husband, and more of a roadmap on how to raise a boy to respect women, which is helped along greatly by him having a father who already does.

[kittenboo]

I’ve told the story many times of how disappointed I was initially to find out I was not having a girl. But raising a boy has truly been a beautiful experience.

Well done with your entry, so glad you have Minion in your life!

[karmasoup]

I have also been having such a great time raising my son so far, there's a part of me that wonders what the heck I was thinking. Thanks very much! :-)

[flipflop_diva]

This is such a sweet tribute to Minion, and I loved reading about the differences between you and the way you aspire to raise your son. I'm lucky, too, in that a lot of your bullet points on Minion match up with my husband as well, but especially on the important ones, which are taking care of our daughter!

[karmasoup]

Indeed... certainly the parenting responsibilities are the most important on any list! ;-) I'm glad you have one who will properly help you share that burden. <3

[alycewilson]

Sounds like you truly have a great life partner and father to Firebird. It reminds me of the fact that I often tell KFP that I waited to have a child until I found a good father for him. :)

[karmasoup]

OMG, hon, that just made me misty-eyed! What a precious truth to pass along to your boy!

And, you know, it's very true of my life, as well. When I used to say my life would not be fulfilled based on whether or not I had children, it was because there was only one circumstance under which I was willing to bring kids into this world, and that was only when I had a love with someone so powerful, the most natural expression of it would be to create a life from within it. I'll be honest, there was a while there when I felt like I would never have that. So, yes, it was a long time coming, because I, too, waited to have our child until I had a true co-parenting partner, and they're not as common as one might hope... but I'm sure glad now that I never settled for anything less.

Thank you so much for sharing this sweet insight!

[alycewilson]

That's a very beautiful way to express that. There was a period of time when I wasn't sure I'd be a mother either, although I always in the back of my mind wanted to be. But I'm so very glad I waited and found him a good one!