Choose Your Own Adventure

[karmasoup]

THE LONG ROAD

My husband and I have been losing sleep lately, trying to convince our boy he’s not a vampire.  It’s not just the biting, and the refusing to eat people food, though, certainly those are problems worth addressing.  But how do you make a 3-yr-old understand abstract concepts like, we are diurnal creatures, child - humans are designed

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[viagra]

What a wonderful piece. I love your outlook on writing; I had never really thought of my writings being anything at all if they weren't published, but I love the thought of the next generation of my family having something tangible to look back on, to have something that they can feel together with me across time. What a special treasure your son will have to carry with him through his life, and maybe he will continue the tradition himself.

You're so good at what you do; your work is so thoughtful and full of love. Great job :-)

[karmasoup]

I've always wanted to record tales of my life to preserve a permanent record of the whole story... in person, I tell many of them regularly, so getting them into the written form feels like a satisfying way of having the "official" version formalized. Having a child just made it that much more of a pressing compulsion, and is the reason I haven't written a word of fiction this season

[d0gs]

I loved everything about this and the idea of your son reading your writings and having them to keep when he's older! <3
As always I loved the voice in this too; so full of emotion and love!

[karmasoup]

Thanks! Yes, well, I am certainly full of emotion, and also love for my family, so I guess there's no way for that not come out in the voice of my writings concerning them! ;-)

[kittenboo]

It’s so beautiful and challenging and wonderful and overwhelming being a parent! We are responsible for everything. I use to celebrate my son’s birthday by saying “I kept him alive another year!”

I can relate to so much of this, including how hard it can be to write and parent, and how hard it can be to write about things that are too difficult to write about.

I’m so glad you are still in this competition.

[karmasoup]

I certainly felt that way about his first birthday, though I wasn't admitting it to anyone, but one of the friends I invited to his first birthday party (who doesn't even have children! XD) told me, yeah, the first birthday is always a way for every parent to show off to all your friends, "HEY, LOOK EVERYONE, I ACTUALLY MANAGED TO KEEP THIS KID ALIVE!" which I could not even pretend wasn't a totally accurate description of the relief I felt

[dadi]

now maybe you have a better understanding of them, and perhaps, even, a little bit more about me, as well.
Yes, and I am so very glad I do! I told you already that you are really one of the best, if not the best "things" that the LJ Idol experience brought to me personally and this entry has just added to that!
I hope so so much that after the end of this Idol season you WILL write about a lot of these things, because I cannot wait to read them <3

[karmasoup]

You are too sweet! *blush!* I'm so glad to have gotten to know you, as well... you have so much to share, and I just want to take it all in like a sponge! <3

Well, I do hope I will continue to tell these stories, though, it's hard for me to find the discipline to get it done if I don't have a deadline to meet, so for sure I'll continue as long as I'm still here, and after that, I'll try... almost everything I've written here has been for Idol, but, ya never know... things could change... I could turn over a new leaf! I do have a stronger motivation now, after all, and a lot more time on my hands than usual, too ;-)

[lyssa027]

I can't have kids, but I started blogging at a really young age [before I got cancer obvs] and part of that was so my future spawn would have all of my memories, the good and the bad

[karmasoup]

I'm sorry to learn that your battle took that natural option for you... are you and your husband thinking of considering adoption? (Not that I'm one of those people who consider having children is a human requirement... quite the opposite, actually, but the idea that you blogged for your potential posterity suggests it was something you longed for at least at one point in your life.) There is a part of me that would like to adopt, having been adopted, I figure I would likely know what NOT to do, but I think it may be a hard sell for you my husband, and we could be aging out of our window of opportunity... though, my folks were in their 60s when they adopted my youngest brother, so, ya never know.

I think it's important to preserve the history of our lives, even on a personal level, even if we haven't made a great impact in the world... our lives are important to someone, and it's even good for ourselves that we can bring to mind both the good and the bad.

[lyssa027]

J really wants to find a surrogate. He wants to use a donor's egg and his sperm and pay a gestational carrier. The problem is finding somebody willing to be a carrier. We don't want to use an agency because they're a rip-off and we couldn't afford it. We'd like to find someone willing to use their insurance, we'd cover bills and of course, pay them.

[karmasoup]

At one of my most recent contract projects, one of the gals had done that... her sister had agreed to be their surrogate. They'd struggled trying for years, and her sister had offered near the beginning of that process, but was eventually able to take them into taking her up on it. It's amazing what kind of love some families have between them, and what sacrifices can be made for love when people are willing. It was ideal, because their surrogate would actually contribute a very similar genetic code, she was available for help and support for caring for their baby girl in the early days, and she was able to keep them with a decent supply of natural milk for the first year or so. I hope you are both able to find an agreeable partner in this endeavor.