I have many questions that I would like to have answered. However, I have only three that I need answered most urgently, and so I suppose I should begin with those
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oh-- speaking of colors? I have another question, one particularly for you.
If black is worn for grieving, then I presume that is another reason I should not wear my uniform to your wedding. And I know that you've been carefully selecting your decorations, and I don't wish to be ...objectionable. Would you be willing to advise me on what I should wear? There's a tailor in the city who sells formal clothing...
[ooc: would that be something that would make a log or not? I'm not sure how to do 'virtual' clothes shopping... ^_^;;]
It is, most of the time. You're supposed to wear black from head to toe. --not a black cloth or anything, but just black clothes. It shows people that you're in the process of grieving, so they don't make insensitive comments. It's also to pay respect to the person you're grieving.
Actually, tuxedos are the one thing in black that can be used at a wedding. Everything else must be white. --of course, if you want to wear a white tux, don't let me stop you.
[... oh god, clothes shopping with Sephiroth, y, y, y. XDD]
To answer your first question, General, work. Energy wasted on grieving can best be put to use aiding the rest of populace in their own grievances.
Marriage. An interpersonal relationship with governmental, social, or religious recognition. It is often created as a contract or through civil processes. What do you wish to know?
...Work. I can do that. Thank you, Father Tres. Apparently my usual attire is socially acceptable for the purpose as well, so that's an unexpected benefit.
Is there a goal I can aim for? Some particular quantity of work that I can look at and say 'once I get this finished, it won't hurt anymore to miss them'?
About marriage -- I was under the impression that, being a priest, you were sworn not to do so yourself? On the other hand, as a performer of marriage -- yes, I suppose I could ask, if you don't mind. I'm...
[private to Father Tres] I'm looking for advice on how to truly anchor the 'til death do us part' section of the marriage rites. How to make sure that vows taken are stronger than this place's magic.
Because if no one can die in this place, then people who have bound themselves to each other should at least be able to go together if the world snatches them away...
The amount of work needed to be done would depend on you, General. If you feel that you have done a sufficient amount, then so be it.
[Private to General Sephiroth] I cannot say for certain, and for that I apologize. What I see, and what I deem to be the best course of action, would be to stay with the one who you are bound to. Keep them close to you, for the vows of marriage are only as strong as those who make them believe them to be.
If a sufficient amount is defined as the amount after which grieving does not happen any more, then I haven't reached that point yet.
I'm certain that there is more than enough work that needs to be done, however. I should investigate having as much of the paperwork as possible made portable, so that I will also be able to comply with the second part of your suggestion.
[Private to Father Tres] But he flails around so indignantly whenever I talk about putting him on his leash... or me on mine.
I'll have to do my best to stay as close as I can manage without his leash, then.
I don't know if anyone has ever seen someone vanish, here. But if you stay close enough, maybe you can catch them back -- or follow them. Or whatever needs to be done, when the void calls.
Thank you again, Father Tres. You really are a very comforting individual.
What would I do with a vacation, though? There's nowhere I can go to leave my memories behind. I mean -- the beach reminds me of Zack's odd whims for dueling with beach umbrellas, and the wharfs remind me of Balthier's explosions, and the park reminds me of Ino's flowers and of Kabegami on my shoulder, purring... and the office wouldn't be a vacation. And if I were to find a corner that somehow didn't remind me of any of them, I doubt there would be very far I could move, or much that I could do there.
And the city needs vigilance, if others who are grieving their losses feel as ...upended as I do. I would like very much to hit something until it falls over, except that I know it won't bring anyone back. But that doesn't make the impulse go away, and I don't know why. It should make the impulse stop when I tell it that it is irrational, shouldn't it?
On the whole, I think perhaps I would be safer sent back to work...
I am, yes. My first-ever friend left, along with quite a few people I'll also miss. I'm not sure what Zack's Cloud will do without him, or what I'll do without him either...
Thank you -- I've tried that. It helped. Though I'm really less than fond of the sniveling that comes with it. Next time I should plan to be in range of kleenex first. --Actually, I would prefer to avoid a next time...
[ooc: (whew!) Yuuko would probably break him right at the moment. He's having one of those 'but but but I used to be a demigod! If I didn't like how the world was going, Mother told me I could vaporize it and start over!' kinds of moments. XD]
I see... Some people I knew have left Lumiere, too. I was really sad about it before, but I'm feeling better now. We have to think they're back home now, and they're probably much happier there, nee?
I'm glad that you're feeling better, too. Also, if it helps any, I could be your friend, too! New friends will never make you forget old friends, but they can help you cheer up a little!
[Lol, Yuuko isn't that evil, you know. xD She would try to help, only in her own, special way. Seph is being a big kid at the moment, though, so I figured Sakura was the best way to go. XD]
I hope that they're safely home, yes. But I am selfish enough to think that they could have been just as happy here, where their friends are... I've been informed that it's one of my less attractive traits.
Are you sure you wouldn't mind? I don't have much experience in making friends, and I make mistakes. And I have a very unattractive temper management problem. I'm certain you could find better friends than me... although if you don't mind how obvious my flaws are, I would like to continue to learn about friendship. There are clearly things I need to learn about what to do when friends leave a person behind, for example...
[ooc: *smacks Gmail* I've been having this recurring cookie-gets-munged problem that means that when I click something the mail doesn't open for me, but the next time I go back it's been marked read, so I've been losing threads. Sorry about the delay!]
Satoshi-kun is gone too.....Now I have no one to cook for
Mom always said that the best way to grieve is to let your feelings out and not hold anything back. Because if you keep them inside for too long they'll eventually overflow, but by then no tears might come...
Still, things are usually easier said than done, ne Sephiroth-san?
I'm sure that your mother, being human, gives wonderful advice for those who are also human. However, in my case -- the last time I let my negative feelings out without holding anything back, I nearly destroyed the planet I was on
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Distracting yourself with work is a good idea, but make sure you still take care and don't overwork yourself, ok?
It sounds like such a big project, but one of the best ideas I've heard so far. I would be more than happy to help in anyway I can. Being able to take care of someone who needs it....it'll keep my mind busy enough.
I'll be careful. I won't be any use to anyone if I damage myself, after all.
You be careful too, all right? And if you ever need someone to cook with, let me know -- I received two cookbooks at Christmas and Father Abel gave me a dictionary of culinary terms!
[ooc: Got a plot collector thread started over at VDL -- now let's see if it takes off like the Christmas mailbox clearinghouse or if it goes fizzle. XD]
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--but, uh, you do that normally. So...
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...what good does it do? What does it change?
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If black is worn for grieving, then I presume that is another reason I should not wear my uniform to your wedding. And I know that you've been carefully selecting your decorations, and I don't wish to be ...objectionable. Would you be willing to advise me on what I should wear? There's a tailor in the city who sells formal clothing...
[ooc: would that be something that would make a log or not? I'm not sure how to do 'virtual' clothes shopping... ^_^;;]
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Actually, tuxedos are the one thing in black that can be used at a wedding. Everything else must be white. --of course, if you want to wear a white tux, don't let me stop you.
[... oh god, clothes shopping with Sephiroth, y, y, y. XDD]
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Marriage. An interpersonal relationship with governmental, social, or religious recognition. It is often created as a contract or through civil processes. What do you wish to know?
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Is there a goal I can aim for? Some particular quantity of work that I can look at and say 'once I get this finished, it won't hurt anymore to miss them'?
About marriage -- I was under the impression that, being a priest, you were sworn not to do so yourself? On the other hand, as a performer of marriage -- yes, I suppose I could ask, if you don't mind. I'm...
[private to Father Tres]
I'm looking for advice on how to truly anchor the 'til death do us part' section of the marriage rites. How to make sure that vows taken are stronger than this place's magic.
Because if no one can die in this place, then people who have bound themselves to each other should at least be able to go together if the world snatches them away...
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[Private to General Sephiroth]
I cannot say for certain, and for that I apologize. What I see, and what I deem to be the best course of action, would be to stay with the one who you are bound to. Keep them close to you, for the vows of marriage are only as strong as those who make them believe them to be.
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I'm certain that there is more than enough work that needs to be done, however. I should investigate having as much of the paperwork as possible made portable, so that I will also be able to comply with the second part of your suggestion.
[Private to Father Tres]
But he flails around so indignantly whenever I talk about putting him on his leash... or me on mine.
I'll have to do my best to stay as close as I can manage without his leash, then.
I don't know if anyone has ever seen someone vanish, here. But if you stay close enough, maybe you can catch them back -- or follow them. Or whatever needs to be done, when the void calls.
Thank you again, Father Tres. You really are a very comforting individual.
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Perhaps I should attempt to do more of both of those, because so far neither one alone has been sufficient...
I'm not sure how I could realistically wear much more black than I already do, however.
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Though, that is only speculation. My encounters with Death have hardly allowed time for grieving.
Ah... neither am I. It seems to be an impossibility.
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And the city needs vigilance, if others who are grieving their losses feel as ...upended as I do. I would like very much to hit something until it falls over, except that I know it won't bring anyone back. But that doesn't make the impulse go away, and I don't know why. It should make the impulse stop when I tell it that it is irrational, shouldn't it?
On the whole, I think perhaps I would be safer sent back to work...
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I... I don't know about socially acceptable, but... When I'm really sad, I usually cry a little...
[Because Sephkins has only seen my terrifying side as Yuuko, it's time for some sugary cuteness with Sakura~ ♥]
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Thank you -- I've tried that. It helped. Though I'm really less than fond of the sniveling that comes with it. Next time I should plan to be in range of kleenex first. --Actually, I would prefer to avoid a next time...
[ooc: (whew!) Yuuko would probably break him right at the moment. He's having one of those 'but but but I used to be a demigod! If I didn't like how the world was going, Mother told me I could vaporize it and start over!' kinds of moments. XD]
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I'm glad that you're feeling better, too. Also, if it helps any, I could be your friend, too! New friends will never make you forget old friends, but they can help you cheer up a little!
[Lol, Yuuko isn't that evil, you know. xD She would try to help, only in her own, special way. Seph is being a big kid at the moment, though, so I figured Sakura was the best way to go. XD]
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Are you sure you wouldn't mind? I don't have much experience in making friends, and I make mistakes. And I have a very unattractive temper management problem. I'm certain you could find better friends than me... although if you don't mind how obvious my flaws are, I would like to continue to learn about friendship. There are clearly things I need to learn about what to do when friends leave a person behind, for example...
[ooc: *smacks Gmail* I've been having this recurring cookie-gets-munged problem that means that when I click something the mail doesn't open for me, but the next time I go back it's been marked read, so I've been losing threads. Sorry about the delay!]
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Mom always said that the best way to grieve is to let your feelings out and not hold anything back. Because if you keep them inside for too long they'll eventually overflow, but by then no tears might come...
Still, things are usually easier said than done, ne Sephiroth-san?
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It sounds like such a big project, but one of the best ideas I've heard so far. I would be more than happy to help in anyway I can. Being able to take care of someone who needs it....it'll keep my mind busy enough.
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You be careful too, all right? And if you ever need someone to cook with, let me know -- I received two cookbooks at Christmas and Father Abel gave me a dictionary of culinary terms!
[ooc: Got a plot collector thread started over at VDL -- now let's see if it takes off like the Christmas mailbox clearinghouse or if it goes fizzle. XD]
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