bringing sexyback (aka ranting about gay marriage)

[katertotness]

i have been thinking about writing about this for a while. i will do my best to articulate viewpoints about an issue i think is important. i very much encourage anyone who reads this to engage me in debate, ask questions, be critical, etc

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[nycgirl_holla]

I am now attempting to engage in debate. Hardly after 9am. Holler

[katertotness]

so first of all, i very much appreciate your response. and taking the time to write something long and thoughtful is very cool of you alex v

[nycgirl_holla]

You're obviously more well read on all of this than I am, and everything you said makes sense to me. I think that the seperate but equal thing was a tad bit of a stretch, but I honestly can't think of a more appropriate reference, so it's all good to me. And I think you're right that just because something seems daunting that it should be ignored. I also never really looked at the wording of the gay marriage decisions, and from what you've presented it does seem like it is glorifying marriage as opposed to queer people in it

[katertotness]

this deserves a really really seriously well thought out and detailed response... but i clearly have not had the time to respond to this in a way that i would really like, so i will do my best right now

[katertotness]

fabulous. i look forward to a beer, or many, over winter break. hope all is well!

[mixolydia]

i just wrote a really good answer and then it got deleted. sad.

en bref:
giving gays the right to even be normative is a step in the very right direction. perhaps after a little bit of progress, in a magical time when even conservatives understand that gays are humans, then puritan americans will be able to open their minds a little further to see that other forms of kinship/relationships/family are just as valid as marriage. perhaps gay marriage will open up that kind of debate.

clarification please

[hurrikane_ga]

I was really hoping that I could respond to you on this,
but i'm just a little confused about what exactly you're
saying. can you just clarify whether you're saying:
a. marriage is all fine and dandy for some people, but
suppose I'm gay and I want to be in a committed
monagamous relationship, why should i have to choose
marriage as the way to express that? but if I don't want to
choose marriage, I should get the same rights that any
couple (gay or straight) who choses marriage get (power
of attorney, etc.)?

or b. something else?

and if it's a. shouldn't that be something that applies
even to straight couples who don't feel that marriage is
a choice they want to make?

~reg
p.s. - i like when you're serious, it makes me think and that makes
me feel like a better person. you're awesome.

Re: clarification please

[katertotness]

i am pretty much saying a. annddd that should CERTAINLY be something that applies to straight couples who don't feel that marriage is a choice they want to make! exactly! expanding options for everrrrryyyonee, queers or otherwise is my bag.
thanks for thinking!
hugs,
kate