OMG Marissa, I'm so sorry to hear about your father. I definitely know what you are going through. I remember the morning my sister woke me up to tell me that my father had lung cancer, I was alone too so I share your desperateness! I don't know about the details of your father's cancer and/or prognosis but I think the most important thing you can do for your father is to be positive! I know that is one thing I had a hard time with because I was thinking selfishly.
Is your father going to go through chemo? I know you mentioned radiation but didn't hear anything about chemo. If he does go through chemo, please remember that there are going to be days when he doesn't look/act like himself. My father at times looked almost dead. He had no energy at times and all he wanted to do was to sit outside and exist.
If you want to talk about this anymore, you should still have my phone number. Call me at ANY time. I'd be more than happy to be there for you as a friend.
I knew you'd understand (unfortunately) which is why I was wondering why you hadn't responded to this post but i see now you didn't read it before. Right now they haven't mentioned chemo and I think because they want to see how well the surgery goes, also this type of cancer is very rare and for some reason chemo does not work on it...it may help to slow it down but that's it. He caught the cancer early but this type has a tendency to come back in the same place or spread to the lungs. His surgery is scheduled for August 15th and he'll already look a lot different because they are removing most of his upper teeth. I'm prepared for how he will look throughout all this...just want him to get through it. He will be in intensive care for a while after surgery and won't be really talking or wanting to talk, he keeps mentioning that to me making it seem like i dont really have to visit him cause it's pointless, but of course i'm going to be there regardless. I'm definitely trying to stay positive and he is being good about it so far. I just
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Marissa, don't be silly. I've dealt with my fathers passing and while it still is hard sometimes, it doesn't bother me to talk about it anymore. Besides, I'd like to consider you a pretty good friend and if you are in need of some information or something like that, the least I could do is to be here for you.
I was really nervous talking to my father the first time after I learned about it. I mean, I didn't want to sound defeated or anything like that. My father never really showed a lot of emotion, he was very mild mannered. So when I came upstairs he was like, did you hear? So I played dumb and he told me he had lung cancer. His next words were, 'Ahhh fuck it, I'm not going to lay down and die... I'm fighting this'
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But, I will remain optimistic and keep you and yours in my thoughts.
Let's talk soon, beautiful.
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I really hope he recovers and everything is well for you.
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Is your father going to go through chemo? I know you mentioned radiation but didn't hear anything about chemo. If he does go through chemo, please remember that there are going to be days when he doesn't look/act like himself. My father at times looked almost dead. He had no energy at times and all he wanted to do was to sit outside and exist.
If you want to talk about this anymore, you should still have my phone number. Call me at ANY time. I'd be more than happy to be there for you as a friend.
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I was really nervous talking to my father the first time after I learned about it. I mean, I didn't want to sound defeated or anything like that. My father never really showed a lot of emotion, he was very mild mannered. So when I came upstairs he was like, did you hear? So I played dumb and he told me he had lung cancer. His next words were, 'Ahhh fuck it, I'm not going to lay down and die... I'm fighting this'
Remember, you need a friend... I'm here for you.
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