You're niece sounds like a lovely, intelligent and awesome young woman.
At a family holiday dinner several years ago, when one of my exes' extended family said something like, "I just don't get why homos chose to be that way?" My reply was, "Yeah, because it's so much fun and makes their lives so easy and stress free." That stopped the conversation dead and was really awkward but I couldn't stand it any longer. And I don't think that particular guy even got what I was saying. Needless to say, we didn't stay there as long as we'd intended.
And the fit within that family was never very good anyway. Talk about a square peg in a round hole...more like an octagonal peg in a square hole.
She's a creative, smart, beautiful young lady. She just turned 20 years old too.
Funny how it is not a shock to any of us. It really is making my mom have kitten fits though. Amanda may just be her favorite grandchild, but she is championing for the conservative. It makes me feel guilty to giggle while I watch.
That's what it took for my folks to change their mind. My best friend, Judy, came out to me. And when they gave the "hate the sin, love the sinner" argument, I just said, "ok then, what about Judy?" They were stunned 'cause she was just like a daughter to them. And that's what it took.
I don't blame you one bit for giggling or feeling guilty; it's a tough thing for those with granite view to find the stone crumbling.
My husband's mother's husband (got that? You know his family history is complicated) and my husband got into a huge fight one of the times we visited because my FIL was making homophobic and/or racist comments one evening (I wasn't in the room at the time). Problem is, one of my hubby's cousins is both gay and half black. I know my FIL was just not thinking, and was raised in the backwoods, but man it riled H up. FIL realized he'd insulted family, and pretty quickly pulled his foot out of his mouth, and has very kindly tried to at least watch what he says around us, and has even slightly changed his attitude. And that's a very good thing.
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At a family holiday dinner several years ago, when one of my exes' extended family said something like, "I just don't get why homos chose to be that way?" My reply was, "Yeah, because it's so much fun and makes their lives so easy and stress free." That stopped the conversation dead and was really awkward but I couldn't stand it any longer. And I don't think that particular guy even got what I was saying. Needless to say, we didn't stay there as long as we'd intended.
And the fit within that family was never very good anyway. Talk about a square peg in a round hole...more like an octagonal peg in a square hole.
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Funny how it is not a shock to any of us. It really is making my mom have kitten fits though. Amanda may just be her favorite grandchild, but she is championing for the conservative. It makes me feel guilty to giggle while I watch.
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I don't blame you one bit for giggling or feeling guilty; it's a tough thing for those with granite view to find the stone crumbling.
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My husband's mother's husband (got that? You know his family history is complicated) and my husband got into a huge fight one of the times we visited because my FIL was making homophobic and/or racist comments one evening (I wasn't in the room at the time). Problem is, one of my hubby's cousins is both gay and half black. I know my FIL was just not thinking, and was raised in the backwoods, but man it riled H up. FIL realized he'd insulted family, and pretty quickly pulled his foot out of his mouth, and has very kindly tried to at least watch what he says around us, and has even slightly changed his attitude. And that's a very good thing.
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