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[kawaiirae]

I want to bring a topic up for discussion. The other day Derek and I were discussing consummating marriages. I don't remember how this came up, but whatever. So anyway, he said you're not truly consummating the marriage unless you have sex sans a condom. I think that's bogus. Why can't you consummate the marriage while being safe? What if you get

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[pseudogoth]

i think sex in general is consumating, i don't think it is dependent on a condom or not. anyway, catholics denounce birth control of all sorts, so that is why he is saying the no condom thing. he should also be anti-birth control pill then, too, in theory.

[kawaiirae]

yeah, I think sex in general works, too. but the whole "I'm Catholic and therefore won't use condoms or birth control" theory fails with Derek because that's never stopped us before.

[pseudogoth]

you should tell him that, or tell him that sex before marriage is bad in the eyes of god.

[kawaiirae]

I did! I totally did! And he just says "it's not truly consummating if you use a condom." how can I argue with that?

[dewaltgirl]

in that situation. i don't think you should have to wear a condom. but than again, i don't think of condoms as something to stop pregnancy, but as something to stop std's and if you're married to someone than the std thing shouldn't be an issue. i condsider the birthcontrol thing to be on my end. basicly, just because i don't trust other people. it's not HIS body if i get pregnant. it's mine. so i get the depo shot when i'm sexual active.

and i promise you, there's a huge difference in sex with a condom and sex without. especially if you're in love. i know it sounds weird, but it's just different. there's still something between you. both the way it feels phsyically and the emotional aspect of it is different. i would never use condoms with someone i was in love with. i'd get on the shot or the pill.

[needalittlejoy]

because the point of consummation is having your husband plant his seed in you.

[scatterheart__]

i'm not getting married when i'm in college.
maybe that's just because i don't have a dog.

[carmesi]

wow, i am reading old posts of yours, rachel, and i have to say i have no idea why i wrote that.

[kawaiirae]

haha. yeah, that doesn't make too much sense. :)