Sugar Daddy? O_o?
Being a Mom isn't easy. It has it's up's as well as it's down's. And I'm sure being a Dad is the same way.
That's is of course you're Dad happens to be my husband, Nick. For years after we moved in together, we didn't really worry too much on how we spent money. I think that's why up until a few months ago, he had a spending problem. Going out and buy useless things while I worried at home if we had enough money to buy diapers. But, after I threatened to leave him unless he changed his way about that and something else, he's changed.
I wish he would do the same when it comes to our daugther. I'm home 24/7 most of the time. I can't work for various reasons.
- We have a stick shift car and I don't know and can't learn to drive it
- No babysitter. I don't trust a stranger with my child
- The only sitter I have is my mother. But she says, "I can't handle her! She's too much! She's too hyper!"
Jena is not hyper! She's a really happy baby! She enjoys everything about her life. From the tiny blueberries she has with her cheerios to the wonders of a giant tree. She loves it all! Granted there are times when she can be a handful, and that's why I'm about to rant about her father, my husband.
Knowing all of the problems we have and how much I stress out over the things he does or Jena does, does he bother to say, "Hey Tiff, I know you've been home all week and Jena's been a pain. So tomorrow, I'll take care of her and you can do what you want. I'll even take her out for a while to spend time with he and so you can be alone!" NO! No he doesn't. I'm the one that has to suggest it.
But I give him the benefit of the doubt and wait for him to bring it up. He doesn't. By 9:00 am, I'm pushing him to take care of her so I can have a day to sleep in. He gets up after about half an hour of me pushing him. I barely rest because Jena's running around like her happy self and Daddy doesn't as her too quiet down a bit. I finally get up at 11:00, walk to the living room and what do I see... he's on the comp while she's munching on cereal&blueberried in a cup and drinking milk from her sippy cup.. for 2 whole hours...>_
I usually wait an hour before I decided to nap during her time (which is 2 hours). So, when I'm about to wake, she should aleardy be up. But no... Daddy decides to watch "Bleach" with head phones on. Thus, he can't hear her jumping in her crib waiting to be let out. but I can from the baby monitor in our room. I wake up from that and look at the time, she's been in there for 3 hours!! I stomp to her room and get her. "Why didn't you wake her up and hour ago?!" "Oh sorry, I was watching Bleach and lost track of time." 'lost track of time...LOST TRACK OF TIME?!?!?!' The damn time is right at the bottom of the screen!!! Did you ever glance at it?! So, I leave her to him while I take care of cleaning the mess of her toys he didn't put away while she was asleep. About an hour later, he's getting ready to go out for the night with his friends. I sat down at the comp after eating a late lunch and notice Jena's diaper looks... saggy. She pissed alot. "Nick did you change her after I gave her to you?" "No, I forgot. I'll do it now." I WAS FUMMING MORE THAN KYO!!! But I held my temper... which gave me another head ache.
Then we realized Jena did something bad. She colored on a dart board he just bought but didn't set up. Now, we both agreed that we weren't going to be like my mother, who abused me. We were going to discipline our child like civilized people. Meaning, Jena has a naugthy chair that she must sit in for 5-10. With no TV, no snacks, and no "Lovey Bear" or toys. Here's what I do when she does something wrong.
- Asses the damage. Did something break? Can it be fixed?
- Show her the thing she ruined. Say coloring on her baby doll like she did yesterday.
- Sternly say to her, "Jena! I told you that crayons go on paper! Not anything else!" I even show her that crayons go on paper not other things. Saying "Yes" for paper and "No" for the doll and other examples.
- Tell her to sit in her chair for 5 minutes because she did a bad thing. She'll cry but she'll do it.
- I don't let her color for the rest of the day.
So what did daddy do? He yells and demands her to sit in her chair after just pointing to the dartboard and telling her "Don't Touch daddy's stuff!" I've talked to him about what I do when she does something wrong, but it goes in and out. So I step in and do what I did the day before. My head ache gets worse....>_>
Now, don't think he's a bad guy or a bad father because there are times when he realizes his mistakes before I point them out.
I ignore him for the rest of the day as much as possible because I know once he leaves, I'll be alone while she's asleep and be able to vent in my journal later. He then has the balls to ask, "Tiff what's wrong? You look mad?" HMM....I WONDER WHY?! So, I tell him but he takes it as nagging. He apologizes but doesn't sound like he means it. So... he finally left an hour ago.. and I'm finally able to vent.
Sorry to you all if this was too much to read... but I don't know how (though I've tried) to do an LJ cut. If someone can school me on how to do it, please do so. I hate to fill up space on someone's friends page... >_