Black Women and...Asian Men?
I found a old,but interesting article on the something rarer than black women and white men(because we are still few and far between). Black women and Asian men. I hope you read it and take whatever information you need or just get a sense of it.
"Blasian" is the mixture of both Asian and Black cultures. Generally, when people hear the word Blasian, it is in reference to a Black man and Asian women combination. Blasian relationships have always been the most unique of all interracial blends, but the biggest rarity is Asian men/Black women couples. It is very rare to see an Asian man walking down the street and holding hands with his Black girlfriend or wife.
In cities such as Los Angeles and others on the west coast, you are more likely to see these couples. There has been an increase in these relationships. Some people say it may be due to the influence of movies such as 'Romeo Must Die', 'Catfish In Black Bean Sauce' and 'Fakin Da Funk'. Needless to say, these movies did have a considerable effect on both Asian men and Black women. For the first time on screen we saw a Black woman and an Asian man thrown into potentially romantic situations.
Another factor that has led to the increase in these relationships is the increase of Black men and Asian women dating more interracially, some say...leaving Asian men and Black women at a shortage. More Black women and Asian men are seeing things differently. Some Asian men and Black women are specifically seeking each other as future partners for long term relationships and for dating.
The typical Asian Man/Black woman couple in many cases consists of two people from similar socio-economic backgrounds, and of various age groups. Lets look into the lives of some others' perspectives:
Jake, Asian (Filipino/Thai) male, 27, Bank Manager
I first dated a Black woman when I was back in High School. It was her smile, personality, and her skin tone. As I got older my attraction towards Black women deepened. I've learned that a Black woman is strong, goal oriented, dependent, compassionate, loving. I guess the main reason why I prefer to date/be with a Black woman is because most are on the same level as I am. They understand me and I feel I can express myself easier towards them than any woman of another race.
The only thing that made me reserved about dating/being with a Black woman is that I thought they would only date Black men. The reason why I decided to go ahead and do it anyway was because I'm a risk taker, and someone who likes a challenge. Also I am a person who is determined.
The only advice I can give to another Asian man is just take a chance. If you find some beautiful Black woman, don't be intimidated. Who knows, she might think you're pretty sexy yourself. Like the saying goes "Don't knock it til you try it"
Elizabeth, Black (mixed) female, 30, Telephone Operator
I have always been pretty open about dating interracially. I grew up around a variety of cultures. I went to school with alot of refugee children from 7th-12th grade. I have always found Asian men's physical features very appealing, but this is not my sole attraction. I'm also very drawn their devotion to family and sense of hard work and responsibility.
I used to hesitate about getting into a relationship with an Asian man because of family. My father's side of the family was pretty much expecting me to be with a Black man. I was afraid of disappointing them. I came to realize that my parents are happy if I am happy. Especially my mom. She is very supportive about it. But there are others in my father's family who are not. Something else that hindered me from wanting to be with an Asian man was that I didn't think they really mixed with other races...especially with a Black woman. I realized that it wasn't necessarily true.
I met my boyfriend online. We were both in an Asian men/Black women Interracial group. He and I are both very shy in ways and I think if we had met under different circumstances, like in a nightclub or a restaurant... We both would have probably been hesitant about approaching each other. We both like the same kind of food, music and comedy movies.
The advice I recommend for Black women who may be interested in a handsome Asian guy is... "Don't pass up the opportunity to give it a chance. It can be a really great experience if you allow your mind to open up and see past his race and skin color"
Sometimes family, peers and social acceptance can play a big part in some of the conflicts that may be faced. These can put a strain on many Asian men/Black women relationships. Many Asian parents would rather see their son with an Asian woman. Sometimes sons are forced to choose their partner or their parents. It is the same situation in many Black families. The Black woman's family may tell her that she needs to be with a good Black man. However, if two people share something so special with each other, they should pursue it at all costs...because it is worth it.
Asian men and Black women both share some very important similarities. Both cultures are very deep rooted in having strong sense of family values and spirituality. Respecting their elders and the family unit is something they both hold dear. Both Asian men and Black women have their own individual experiences with dealing with different forms of discrimination, and can very much relate to each other in that sense. These relationships can be the most passionate and fiery!
Article by: MoonKitty
ASIA'ZINE, VOLUME SIX, NO. 1
"Blasian" is the mixture of both Asian and Black cultures. Generally, when people hear the word Blasian, it is in reference to a Black man and Asian women combination. Blasian relationships have always been the most unique of all interracial blends, but the biggest rarity is Asian men/Black women couples. It is very rare to see an Asian man walking down the street and holding hands with his Black girlfriend or wife.
In cities such as Los Angeles and others on the west coast, you are more likely to see these couples. There has been an increase in these relationships. Some people say it may be due to the influence of movies such as 'Romeo Must Die', 'Catfish In Black Bean Sauce' and 'Fakin Da Funk'. Needless to say, these movies did have a considerable effect on both Asian men and Black women. For the first time on screen we saw a Black woman and an Asian man thrown into potentially romantic situations.
Another factor that has led to the increase in these relationships is the increase of Black men and Asian women dating more interracially, some say...leaving Asian men and Black women at a shortage. More Black women and Asian men are seeing things differently. Some Asian men and Black women are specifically seeking each other as future partners for long term relationships and for dating.
The typical Asian Man/Black woman couple in many cases consists of two people from similar socio-economic backgrounds, and of various age groups. Lets look into the lives of some others' perspectives:
Jake, Asian (Filipino/Thai) male, 27, Bank Manager
I first dated a Black woman when I was back in High School. It was her smile, personality, and her skin tone. As I got older my attraction towards Black women deepened. I've learned that a Black woman is strong, goal oriented, dependent, compassionate, loving. I guess the main reason why I prefer to date/be with a Black woman is because most are on the same level as I am. They understand me and I feel I can express myself easier towards them than any woman of another race.
The only thing that made me reserved about dating/being with a Black woman is that I thought they would only date Black men. The reason why I decided to go ahead and do it anyway was because I'm a risk taker, and someone who likes a challenge. Also I am a person who is determined.
The only advice I can give to another Asian man is just take a chance. If you find some beautiful Black woman, don't be intimidated. Who knows, she might think you're pretty sexy yourself. Like the saying goes "Don't knock it til you try it"
Elizabeth, Black (mixed) female, 30, Telephone Operator
I have always been pretty open about dating interracially. I grew up around a variety of cultures. I went to school with alot of refugee children from 7th-12th grade. I have always found Asian men's physical features very appealing, but this is not my sole attraction. I'm also very drawn their devotion to family and sense of hard work and responsibility.
I used to hesitate about getting into a relationship with an Asian man because of family. My father's side of the family was pretty much expecting me to be with a Black man. I was afraid of disappointing them. I came to realize that my parents are happy if I am happy. Especially my mom. She is very supportive about it. But there are others in my father's family who are not. Something else that hindered me from wanting to be with an Asian man was that I didn't think they really mixed with other races...especially with a Black woman. I realized that it wasn't necessarily true.
I met my boyfriend online. We were both in an Asian men/Black women Interracial group. He and I are both very shy in ways and I think if we had met under different circumstances, like in a nightclub or a restaurant... We both would have probably been hesitant about approaching each other. We both like the same kind of food, music and comedy movies.
The advice I recommend for Black women who may be interested in a handsome Asian guy is... "Don't pass up the opportunity to give it a chance. It can be a really great experience if you allow your mind to open up and see past his race and skin color"
Sometimes family, peers and social acceptance can play a big part in some of the conflicts that may be faced. These can put a strain on many Asian men/Black women relationships. Many Asian parents would rather see their son with an Asian woman. Sometimes sons are forced to choose their partner or their parents. It is the same situation in many Black families. The Black woman's family may tell her that she needs to be with a good Black man. However, if two people share something so special with each other, they should pursue it at all costs...because it is worth it.
Asian men and Black women both share some very important similarities. Both cultures are very deep rooted in having strong sense of family values and spirituality. Respecting their elders and the family unit is something they both hold dear. Both Asian men and Black women have their own individual experiences with dealing with different forms of discrimination, and can very much relate to each other in that sense. These relationships can be the most passionate and fiery!
Article by: MoonKitty
ASIA'ZINE, VOLUME SIX, NO. 1