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In the spirit of posting letters to Nicole, I've decided to post the e-mail I sent Nicole. The only difference if that I not only plan to send it, I already have.
Hello Nicole, it's Adam Kendal.
You may be wondering what I'm doing by sending you an e-mail. Well, it's because I know that you don't like me, I think that this is unnecessary and should be cleared up as soon as possible.
The rest of the e-mail is going to be under the assumption that the reason you don't like me is because you don't agree with how I treat Caitlin. This is because that is all I know about, if there is more please tell me and I would be glad to discuss it with you.
Basically how I see it as you think I'm an asshole from how you see me treating Caitlin. I think you see this because you don't understand our relationship. I like to joke around a lot with Caitlin and whatnot, that’s just the kind of person I am. I'm generally a very nice person, and may come off as mean if you take certain things I say seriously. The best example I can think of is the other week at Madi's house with the truth or dare Jenga. You gave Caitlin to me for a minute and I asked if I could keep her away for that long. I thought it was clear, but maybe I was wrong, I was just joking. If I seriously hated being around Caitlin, we wouldn't be such good friends after a year and a half of knowing each other. What I said was not meant to be taken seriously because it was purely for comical purposes and I know Caitlin would be able to handle a joke like that.
That’s just how I am with her. Very very very rarely would I say something mean like that and mean it. In fact, Caitlin would probably be the first to admit that I have been much nicer to her lately. As it turns out, we have almost traded roles, in the sense that she has actually been lashing out at me from time to time, when it was least expected. But that’s ok, I'm good enough friends with her to let bygones be bygones and more or less pretend things like that never happen.
What I'm trying to get at is that it is easy to interpret my actions as mean if you don't understand us, and thus it isn't fair to make pass judgment like you have. I think the only fair way to get an opinion of someone is from how they treat you. As far as I know, I have never been rude or mean to you. Actually, after Madi's house I was trying to be friendly, though I don't think you noticed. Example, when Greg was being a jerk in computer class I would tell him to shut up or something of that manner. Please, do not take Greg's actions as my own just because I am friends with him.
From what great things I have heard about you, I was very surprised when I heard you didn't like me. Until then, I never had anything against you and this is why I think that we should patch things up as soon as possible. I think we are both mature enough handle this situation properly, and think it's unfair not only to us, but to the people around us. Though it may not be noticeable to you, it causes unnecessary tension amongst friends.
So please take what I have said into consideration, and react accordingly. Thank you.
-Adam
Do you hate me?
yes
no
maybe
Hello Nicole, it's Adam Kendal.
You may be wondering what I'm doing by sending you an e-mail. Well, it's because I know that you don't like me, I think that this is unnecessary and should be cleared up as soon as possible.
The rest of the e-mail is going to be under the assumption that the reason you don't like me is because you don't agree with how I treat Caitlin. This is because that is all I know about, if there is more please tell me and I would be glad to discuss it with you.
Basically how I see it as you think I'm an asshole from how you see me treating Caitlin. I think you see this because you don't understand our relationship. I like to joke around a lot with Caitlin and whatnot, that’s just the kind of person I am. I'm generally a very nice person, and may come off as mean if you take certain things I say seriously. The best example I can think of is the other week at Madi's house with the truth or dare Jenga. You gave Caitlin to me for a minute and I asked if I could keep her away for that long. I thought it was clear, but maybe I was wrong, I was just joking. If I seriously hated being around Caitlin, we wouldn't be such good friends after a year and a half of knowing each other. What I said was not meant to be taken seriously because it was purely for comical purposes and I know Caitlin would be able to handle a joke like that.
That’s just how I am with her. Very very very rarely would I say something mean like that and mean it. In fact, Caitlin would probably be the first to admit that I have been much nicer to her lately. As it turns out, we have almost traded roles, in the sense that she has actually been lashing out at me from time to time, when it was least expected. But that’s ok, I'm good enough friends with her to let bygones be bygones and more or less pretend things like that never happen.
What I'm trying to get at is that it is easy to interpret my actions as mean if you don't understand us, and thus it isn't fair to make pass judgment like you have. I think the only fair way to get an opinion of someone is from how they treat you. As far as I know, I have never been rude or mean to you. Actually, after Madi's house I was trying to be friendly, though I don't think you noticed. Example, when Greg was being a jerk in computer class I would tell him to shut up or something of that manner. Please, do not take Greg's actions as my own just because I am friends with him.
From what great things I have heard about you, I was very surprised when I heard you didn't like me. Until then, I never had anything against you and this is why I think that we should patch things up as soon as possible. I think we are both mature enough handle this situation properly, and think it's unfair not only to us, but to the people around us. Though it may not be noticeable to you, it causes unnecessary tension amongst friends.
So please take what I have said into consideration, and react accordingly. Thank you.
-Adam
Do you hate me?
yes
no
maybe