Comments | kernmantle13: A.M.F.

kernmantle13

A.M.F.

Oct 27, 2007 09:33

My spouse has made clear her intention to use my involvement in the bdsm community as grounds to claim that I am unfit to serve as a parent, and she has stated her intention to claim that her own involvement was coerced and involuntary ( Read more... )

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musicman October 27 2007, 13:57:36 UTC

I'm sorry. Can't your lawyer fight this? Is it a forgone conclusion that a judge will rule in her favor? And how will they know you continue to participate?

kernmantle13 October 27 2007, 15:20:14 UTC

Thanks D. There is no foregone conclusion, but being a good republican, I am following the 1% doctrine (wink), which means if there's even a small chance of this attack separating me from my children, I throw y'all under the bus.

Nothing personal.

musicman October 27 2007, 15:22:33 UTC

As you may know, I also have a child, and a spouse who is very much against bdsm in any form, so I am sensitive to this. I may find myself in a similar situation if not careful. If there is anything i can do to help, please let me know.

make_your_move October 27 2007, 14:01:13 UTC

If there is anything I can do to help *you* (and M) let me know. There are no words ... actually there are quite a few, but none of them I can commit to the internet.

I'm sorry you're having to go through this.

dorei October 27 2007, 14:05:57 UTC

I'm sorry you feel it necessary to follow this path, but I understand your fear.

For the record, your ex is a first class lying bitch. "Coerced and involuntary" my ass. Did you discuss your involvement with your attorney? I ask only because when we were going through custody issues with Brian's ex, we spoke to the independent, court appointed psychological evaluator regarding our bdsm activities, and he said that quite frankly, as long as it wasn't in front of the children, he didn't have an issue with it. It was consensual activities between me and my husband, nothing was done in front of the children in any way shape or form, and therefore, it didn't reflect negatively on our parenting skills and wasn't any of the court's business. Of course, that was Virginia -- I don't know if you're in VA or MD and if there'd be a difference between the two states and how they view things.

keltique October 27 2007, 15:04:25 UTC

if you'd like, we can simply *hold* that box for you in our house, until such a time as things become more sane for you.

"coerced" my wide white ass.... *grrrrrrr* I'm sorry you're having to go thru this.

kernmantle13 October 27 2007, 15:21:14 UTC

thanks, but no. It's all going to be gone, and I don't want to know who has it.

camperamy October 27 2007, 16:26:35 UTC

I was going to make the same offer...mayhap we put our heads together.

ivorydamsel October 27 2007, 15:45:19 UTC

Oh God, I'm sorry. Few things shock me anymore, but I'll make an exception here (re your spouse, not your response). I have certainly seen her play (as a top) at the club since your split, and it sure didn't look coerced and involuntary to me. If the time should come that you need me to say as much, I am willing.