Thirtysomething Blues...

[keywestcorona]

I am noticing something common in all my thirtysomething friends, the single ones anyway. You wake up and all the little "happily ever afters" you always thought would happen are gone. You are standing in a world of shattered promises and broken faith noticing that the little round hole in your life can't be filled. All the round pegs left have

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[fatesfolly]

it's a disconnect between what society says you should do and actuality... just like adjusting to reality in our bodies vs. what society says we should look like in magazines.

[keywestcorona]

To a certain extent, I feel like I have figured it out. You have to be comfortable with who you really are to break out of the cycle. The biggest problem I see is people looking for quick fixes for their emotional problems.

[fatesfolly]

The biggest problem I see is people looking for quick fixes for their emotional problems.

Amen, Brotha!

[cherisshen]

All your single friends in their 30s, eh? That's a mighty big generality. We all have dreams and goals when we're younger and sure, sometimes we realize that those just aren't going to happen, but I don't know that any of us are damaging our faith by forcing ourselves into things. Some of us are just square holes looking for square pegs and square pegs do exist. I've seen them.

[keywestcorona]

Well, obviously there are exceptions to what I am saying. It just appears to me that many people, including myself, feel an urge to fill that space inside us with whatever we can find as quickly as we can find it. It leads to some rather complicated and bitter backwash. When I was younger, I seemed to be more patient. I took more time to make sure I was doing something I really wanted to do. I seem to have thrown some of my caution to the wind, which is part good but also part bad.
For me the biggest question is how do you deal with a mid-life crisis when you feel like the first part of your life has been a failure.

[chellebelle74]

Huh... You've lost patientce? I feel like I've become more patient as I've grown older. When I was younger I didn't feel the ache like I do now for what I want (mate, career, home, etc.) but, for me at least, that was because I didn't know what I wanted. Now that I'm older and wiser I do, and knowing exactly what you want but still not finding it just makes the yearning sharper.

[keywestcorona]

Its difficult to explain. I felt more sure of what I wanted when I was younger. Growing older has only made things more cloudy for me. Everything that has ever felt right for me has ended up biting me in the ass in the end. Some of those things waited longer to bite than others, but they always bite back.