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[ki_tsu_ne_chan]

Ok before I type anything, first of all I don't want any complaints because I can post what I want and I know some people are worse off than me but I need to complain so I'm doing it alright?

First of all I'm SICK of my family.

I'm always hassled about the fact that I don't have a boyfriend by my grandma and every time I get one, my father complains

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[ha_ni_chan]

Uh... you're not planning on living with your family for the rest of your life, are you?

Because, once you start living by yourself, they can't really concern themselves with your private life unless you tell them. And, even if you do decide to live with them until you die, the chances are that they'd die first and then you could do whatever the hell you wanted from... say, 30 onwards.

[ki_tsu_ne_chan]

Imagine this darling.
Your cousin's bitch about you and your boyfriend behind your backs constantly.
Neither one of them talk to you because they don't like him.
Your family glare at him constantly and start whispering when you leave the room.
Your father glares at him and rants about it every time you're not with him.
In my family, yes I will start living by myself in the future.
In the future I will still be with my family, not in the living sense but I will still see them more than normal people see their own families.

[ha_ni_chan]

Hence - once you start living by yourself (say, age 20+), you won't have any problems of those sorts.

Therefore, you either give up trying to find someone until you live by yourself, or just go with it ignoring the stares and such.

Your life, your decisions, etc, etc.

[ki_tsu_ne_chan]

But I will still see them during family functions and so on and so forth and that is at least once every week.

[lil_angel2516]

Oh Cherrie hunny.

I'm sorry that this is happening to you but to be perfectly honest, I say just dont let it go. Before you get psycho at me, yes I did read the post you made on the top of this one but first of all, that list your family's made, dont worry about it now. You're young, just starting out at uni and and exploring the new world. Boyfriends dont have to be a priority now. And if you think about it, the list your parents list does correspond with yours.

Let me explain.
I'll bold yours.

-Being able to speak my language

Your parents say - has to be Chinese (good start)or has to be able to understand it. Sweetie, if you think about it, it's half the list :D

Being able to understand that I have weird likes and dislikes and not judge me for them Well, its in no way certain and can be a bit vague BUT someone that comes from a good family background with good values instilled in them will learn to not judge people just because they are different. Therefore, if he comes from a good family background, his VALUES would mean

[lil_angel2516]

Okay, I meant 'let it go' not dont let it go...

[lil_angel2516]

I'm most definitely NEVER going to get married and why? Because I wouldn't be able to handle it if my parents disapproved of him or whatever.

DONT SAY THAT!!! YOU DONT KNOW WHAT THE FUTURE HOOOOOOLDS!! Something could happen. And one day you might find Prince Chinese Charming :D And everything will be happy :D

Nothing is certain.

[ki_tsu_ne_chan]

Dear gods you're mental *throws stuff at you* and when I said my language I didn't mean Chinese :p

[ki_tsu_ne_chan]

I meant something else... something a LOT dirtier...

[lil_angel2516]

Well I tried didnt I? *sigh* I know I talk a lot of bollocks