the idea of a waste of time is sorta a relative idea... Its also a selfish idea... Like your time spent is worth a certain amount of tangible reward
I've actually been struggling with a similar problem... worried that I have a vested interest in the status quo and I create dependency because in actuality I am the one who is dependent... One of the hardest truths I've ever found was that helping someone has a very unusual effect... the harder you push them in one direction, the harder they seem to push back, most often pushing harder than you and falling harder than they would have originally if you hadn't interfered...
Maybe, you should try being honest, its much more effective at life... and you can never be wrong as long as you are honest about everything. Its not manipulation if you are clear in your intentions. If people are not down with your idea, then you just have to come up with a different one
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I've actually been struggling with a similar problem... worried that I have a vested interest in the status quo and I create dependency because in actuality I am the one who is dependent...
One of the hardest truths I've ever found was that helping someone has a very unusual effect... the harder you push them in one direction, the harder they seem to push back, most often pushing harder than you and falling harder than they would have originally if you hadn't interfered...
Maybe, you should try being honest, its much more effective at life... and you can never be wrong as long as you are honest about everything. Its not manipulation if you are clear in your intentions. If people are not down with your idea, then you just have to come up with a different one
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oh...and i think im back on livejournal haha...
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