Reflections, I guess

[kimberleyqaf]

It was ten years ago today that my father passed away. In some ways it seems like so long ago but in others, it all seems so very recent. Maybe it's just the day that brings back all the raw emotions. Maybe it's because it comes the day after our son's birthday. A day of celebrating life followed by a day of grieving the death of a loved one. I don

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[oasis6028]

Memories are impotant. Sounds like you have many good ones.

[kimberleyqaf]

Yes, I really do. :) Thanks!

[agt_spooky]

I'm so sorry for your loss, Kim. Strangely enough, my husband lost his mother seven years ago this week and is going through the exact same thing you are. I'm glad you both have such good memories that makes this hard time a little easier.

{{HUGS}}

[kimberleyqaf]

Thanks :) The good memories make it as easy as it can be. I'm glad your hubby has them, too :)

[bodleian]

I know what you mean. Dad died 11 years ago and now the memories I have are good ones.

[kimberleyqaf]

Yeah, it's comforting to be at that stage, isn't it? When you can remember the good times without the bad. (((hugs)))

[arwensong]

I know what you mean, sweetie. It's been ten years for me too, and Dad died the day before my anniversary--not that I'd ever forget the day. It does get easier to remember the good times and the good things and the painful edges of grief get softened but never go away.

Hugs and prayers going out to you,

Arwen

[kimberleyqaf]

You're so right, hon. Those painful edges never go away, but the good memories make them easier to bear. (((hugs)))

[svoigt]

My daddy has been gone 10 years this last Nov 16. He died 10 days before I got married. Holidays are always the hardest for me, since he raised me as a single father he made everything so big just for me. I try and do the same things for my kids, but its not the same without him. I see him in my daughter everytime she gives me a big belly laugh, the same kind he had, or when I look at my son who is a mirror image to him in everyway. My daughter was born 5 years after he died and my son 7, but whatever God there is up there gave me back the good parts of him in my children. Whoever said it gets better lied, it just gets easier to live with as time goes by.

[kimberleyqaf]

That's very true. It doesn't actually get better but it does get easier. And I know what you mean about seeing parts of our parents in our children and in ourselves. They're never truly gone as long as they live on in us. :) (((hugs)))