Birthday blah blah

[kimdot]

So. Turned 46 yesterday. Hundreds of folks posted happy wishes on my wall on FB. My husband was nice enough to brave the frozen roads and drive down to Lancaster where I was with my dog and cat. He was there in time for dinner Saturday and heading home by 5 on Sunday. I am never sure why he can't stay over and go to work on Monday like I do when I

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[txreisende]

It's shallow as shit, but it is totally geographically based. There is a mental/emotional blindspot that affects people in the highest concentration areas of SAPA folks, wherein they automatically assign to other people their own distance/driving/social circle size limitations. I experienced this ENDLESSLY when living in Fort Worth, and then much to my own chagrin discovered that I was doing the *exact same thing* to people on the east/north/south sides of me, once there was a sufficient density of SAPA folks around me IN Fort Worth for me to remain as socially active as I needed to be in order to be satisfied (which wasn't a particularly high bar, as I'm very fond of my house and couch). We are a generous, loving, social group, but it has to be said that collectively we are kind of at toddler levels when it comes to the out-of-sight/out-of-mind thing. I've been on both sides of it, and yeah. It's dumb, but real. Also married to a man who is both nicer and more popular than me, so I totally get that aspect, too. Just....be patient

yes, but

[txreisende]

while i could use that geo-argument, one of the people included lives south and southwest of me, so that is the part of where i can dispute the geo-argument just as easily.

And, for the most part, I have told people, "Hey, with 30 extra minutes (or more) notice I can be up to see a movie with a group." Heck with good mapping and time alloted for getting lost, I can attend Tarrant County stuff, as long as my schedule permits.

::shrug:: things like this are why I tend to just not see movies and such, because while I am not afraid of going anywhere alone, its not as fun... and my theater has a large police presence, just because of where i am, so... meh.

that anonymous was me

[kimdot]

i thought i was logged... the weirdo was me.

I get it.

[kathyc514]

I feel that way, all the time.

I keep myself busy with work, volunteer stuff, and family. I also don't always have the luxury of pre-planning. When I do have time for socializing, I really don't know who to call up, usually at the last minute.

I would love to go to a movie with a girlfriend. Perhaps when you are closer, impromptu occasions will present themselves. I won't be far.

I have the added bonus of having an anti-social spouse. He does love to do dinner with couple friends, but it's hard to find ones that love us both or vice versa. I know he adores your honey, so that would be fun.

[katjabee]

If it makes you feel any better, I wasn't invited either. And they took pains to hide it from me, because I didn't even see the plans being made.

So, yeah. I feel you. The last time I had a gathering, I invited you. And I'd do it again. *hug*

Thanks

[kimdot]

And I appreciate that we were invited. I enjoyed it too.

I try to always attend things I am invited to, schedule permitting.

While it is often sucky to not be invited places, it is also sucky to invite folks and none can attend.