That's a great compliment to your work. I can understand that you might not want to take it to the next level, but the fact that they've even voiced that opinion is a huge alidation of what you do for them. well done!
I'm sure you're not the first parent to make a 'spur of the moment' error of judgement, and you won't be the last! It's so difficult to know what to shield children from, and when to start exposing them to the real world, I'm sure you can find a good way to make amends. :)
No amends were needed, apparently - he loved the movie! I still apologized and explained my fault, though.
It was like a balm, after months of 'constructive criticism' and 'friendly reminders' and the never ending eyes on me, to finally hear someone simply say, "You're doing good here." I wish I'd recorded it or something.
Don't beat yourself up about your reaction as a parent with the movie. Was there a way to discuss it with him afterwards maybe? It looks like you did. I think we all have gut reactions to things that are instilled and not necessarily what we want to teach our younger ones...
Yeah, I would definitely not go on to be a teacher (for a lot of reasons). Not because you couldn't. I think you'd do awesome at it. You have the natural compassion and love for children. But it's extremely stressful and you are under a microscope ALL the time. And sometimes you can do no right. I'm trying to get out of the education field and I love teaching. It's the adults and the policies that are the problem, not the kids.
I think we all have gut reactions to things that are instilled and not necessarily what we want to teach our younger ones... Could not have put it better myself.
you are under a microscope ALL the time. And sometimes you can do no right. That is certainly how I'm feeling about the job today, and I'm still just an aide! :)
Yeah, I am in a new project management job and am not liking the visibility at all.
EVERY parent fucks up. You had reason to believe the movie would be like the other ones, PG-13 or so for good reasons. I wish they'd not get gritty and dystopian and am not going to see Logan ever, even on netflix. But you can talk about it -- I remember my parents admitting they made mistakes, I love them for that and try to follow that example.
God, it's like there are people who live and breathe to find fault in others. I understand if it's your job, if you're an inspector or something, but others just seem to simply enjoy tearing down other people.
I did talk to him about it, and claim it as my mistake. He seemed to understand. Also, he didn't care - he still loved the movie! :)
(I know I owe you a rec list - sorry, I've been swamped with things lately, but I will get it to you!!!)
But, honestly, in regards to your son, just say exactly what you wrote down. I'm sorry I was a hypocrite, I'm sorry I didn't check the rating on the movie, I'm sorry I gave more weight to sexual situations than violent ones, that's not the message I want you to have when you're out in the world, and use it as a teachable moment for the both of you. Everyone - including parents - screws up. It's how you handle it that speaks to your character. <3333
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I'm sure you're not the first parent to make a 'spur of the moment' error of judgement, and you won't be the last! It's so difficult to know what to shield children from, and when to start exposing them to the real world, I'm sure you can find a good way to make amends. :)
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It was like a balm, after months of 'constructive criticism' and 'friendly reminders' and the never ending eyes on me, to finally hear someone simply say, "You're doing good here." I wish I'd recorded it or something.
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Yeah, I would definitely not go on to be a teacher (for a lot of reasons). Not because you couldn't. I think you'd do awesome at it. You have the natural compassion and love for children. But it's extremely stressful and you are under a microscope ALL the time. And sometimes you can do no right. I'm trying to get out of the education field and I love teaching. It's the adults and the policies that are the problem, not the kids.
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Could not have put it better myself.
you are under a microscope ALL the time. And sometimes you can do no right. That is certainly how I'm feeling about the job today, and I'm still just an aide! :)
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EVERY parent fucks up. You had reason to believe the movie would be like the other ones, PG-13 or so for good reasons. I wish they'd not get gritty and dystopian and am not going to see Logan ever, even on netflix. But you can talk about it -- I remember my parents admitting they made mistakes, I love them for that and try to follow that example.
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I did talk to him about it, and claim it as my mistake. He seemed to understand. Also, he didn't care - he still loved the movie! :)
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But, honestly, in regards to your son, just say exactly what you wrote down. I'm sorry I was a hypocrite, I'm sorry I didn't check the rating on the movie, I'm sorry I gave more weight to sexual situations than violent ones, that's not the message I want you to have when you're out in the world, and use it as a teachable moment for the both of you. Everyone - including parents - screws up. It's how you handle it that speaks to your character. <3333
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Everyone - including parents - screws up. It's how you handle it that speaks to your character. Thank you, I needed that, especially today.
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