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[kirk_tinman]

I was thinking today about how there are at least four different levels of grief: there's existential grief, where the loss of something changes the fabric of your existence, and that absence is something that defines the path of your life from then on out; there's personal grief, where the connection is personal and intense but eventually you move

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[chavtasticjinx]

I actually was temped to say "oh no, don't quit!" when i read about EK... But after years and years of having friends explain the results of a long, difficult thought process leading to a tough decision, I've learned to stop letting "but I LIKE THINKING OF YOU AS (doing this thing/being in this place/having this goal/dating this person)" affect my response.

People make tough decisions for a reason, and it's not my place to say "but NO! because that affects MY life in some way...!"

I say that, but I also have a few specifics where I really should have said "dude, keep going. I have faith..." and didn't. And in those cases, I fucking suck as a friend.

But I think 90% of the time, "if it's come to this, I'm sad, but I'm sure you've thought it through..." is the answer.

I dunno. I kinda fight that one regularly.

I'll miss EK. But I get it? I think?