To cry or not to cry, t'is the question

[kirschreich]

So apparently, I have been single for two weeks without having been told. I think when a guy wants to break it off with a girl he should at least have the decency to freaking TELL HER DAMN IT

Comments

[misaoshinomori]

In all honesty you need some sort of official closure in order to come to terms with yourself and as to what direction your life is going to go to. I would say call him or go to his place and demand why he wanted to break up with you and tell him that what he did hurt you. Obviously he is a coward and a worthless boy if he's one to run away from others and his problems.

*hug* Sorry that this happened to you. I know the feeling and I ended up confronting my ex about it when it happened. He said to my face that "You're an awesome girl, but you are not what I want because you're not Asian enough for me."

Now I am happy with my fiance and nervous as hell since I'm getting married in about 3 weeks on September 5th, but I couldn't be happier.

I truly hope that you find happiness someday, whether it be with a person or pursuing a personal goal, never dwell in the past for long (I'm quite a victim of doing that and it is torturous).

Good night =^.^=

[ldydragon7]

Oh, hon. That's awful. I am astonished that he could be so cowardly.

As for contacting him again.... that depends. If you feel you need some closure then go ahead and do it, just be prepared that the conversation may just brign up all thoses feelings against without settling anything.

As for crying. It sounds to me that you need a chance to vent your feeling. So go ahead and cry, scream or curse, what ever gives you a chance to let it all out. Then it will be easier to let it go.

*Hugs* I am so sorry he hurt you.

[kirschreich]

The thing is: I've tried to be mad, angry and spiteful and I tried to be sad and to just let the tears flow except NOTHING will work! Tears don't go further than a slightly wet-itchy feeling in my eyes, but I don't cry. Like I somehow can't or something. :(

[dungeonwriter]

He;s a jerk! Throw yourself a goodbye party and sing "Good riddance to him!" It will provide closure and not require you validate his behavior.

[beyondthemoor]

What the... WHAT?!

See if you can reach him and just ask him what's up (do you have any mutual friends who'd be able to approach him tactfully?). I know it is long distance -- so this may not be the easiest option, but you could try it!

If he wants to break off the relationship, keep your chin up and move on to the next stage in life I like to call, "Enjoying the SINGLE LIFE! BOOYAH!".

It might take a bit of adjustment, but I think that perhaps the tears may not be coming because you aren't sure how to handle it yet? Or your insides aren't sure how to handle things yet. :)

*HUGE hugs*

Lemme know if there's anything I can do -- support, send flowers, a long-distance prankster to teach your ex some manners, or a one-shot to make you feel better. ^_^b

[little_fool]

Confront him.

To need to know "Why?" or else it'll be something that may not stop bothering you.

What a loser! >:(

I'm sorry.