Moooooooving (also an Apology)

[kisekinotenshi]

I've decided that I care enough about this fat acceptance movement to blog about it separately. To that aim, I am making my registered-but-as-yet-unused DreamWidth account into my new Fat Blog (working title). I will work toward this goal over the next few days, and announce here when I make my first entry. All other essays not involved in fat

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[aiela]

One thing I try to keep in mind (and I'm not saying you're doing this, just that it's something I've become more and more aware of) is trying to be accepting of my fat without being down on skinny people. My sister weighs, on a good day, 100 pounds. She's three inches taller than me. She eats whatever she wants, whenever she wants, and she cannot gain weight.

One of my dear friends (and an ex-bf's wife) is the same way. So I try really hard not to trash skinny people and paint them all with the same brush. Yes, some women diet themselves sick, but some women are just like that, and saying that "skin and bones is so unattractive!" isn't any better than someone saying "Eww, fat girls are unattractive!"

I'd like to see people of all shapes and sizes be accepted for who they are. Trust me, super skinny girls get mean comments and such just as much as we fat girls do. My stepmother would constantly bitch about how my sister (who she barely knew, since my sister is from my mom's first marriage) was anorexic and how awful it was.

[kisekinotenshi]

Oh yes, please don't mean this to think that I am going to go all "fat is good, skinny is evil!" about things. I'm very much of the idea that a natural body is anything people naturally look like, without starving themselves or gorging themselves or working out constantly or never working out or whatever. I am happy to admit there are plenty of naturally skinny girls out there, and they're beautiful too (although not really my cup of tea, in terms of personal attractiveness).

I will accept any and all attempts to correct me when I say ignorant things (see terriaminute's comment on the previous entry after I said something about knowing way more skinny people with health problems, which is true but not necessarily universal for anyone aside from me). This is very much a learning experience for me. Looking in the mirror and NOT telling myself I'm ugly is a struggle, so I can't assume I'm going to magically be tolerant and intelligent automatically.

[aiela]

oh, of course it won't happen magically - I struggle with it myself. Its an ongoing process for all of us who try to be mindful.

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[tidesong]

I saw this one somewhere and liked it:

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[kisekinotenshi]

Oh, that's very pretty! You don't have any idea where it came from? n.n;;; I do prefer to give credit when possible.

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[tidesong]

I really can't remember...I've had it for a long time. Sorry!! I think it was an old LJ friend who's no longer an LJ friend....

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[kisekinotenshi]

Ah, well. If someone accuses me of stealing I'll just say "a friend of a friend gave it to me..." I like it. X3