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kissntellsqurl

Why be Specific When You can Ramble?

May 18, 2006 00:21

So today was the beginning of my road trip with my dad... Beautiful sites all around me on the way to Tennessee, and all I can think about is one thing. Whether or not I want to torpedo one of the best friendships I've ever had. And of course there is absolutely no reason to think I would be sinking my friendship submarine... except that I've been ( Read more... )

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zellie_bean May 18 2006, 11:10:00 UTC

I don't know enough about the situation to really say....except that, if you feel it, you feel it. If they feel it, they feel it. Denying it is just going to frustrate both of you, could cause some distancing to avoid the frustration sooo NOT doing anything may cause as many problems AS doing something...so you may as well try it ;)

Although in my experience...I've dated two people, one was a close friend who totally screwed me over and I haven't talked to since.... the other (and current) I'd talked to a couple times and figured I'd just go with it... to break the glass of the asshole ex being the last in my mind, to do SOMETHING before college ended even if it was a shortterm silly meaningless fling. And then here we are a year later XDD we've never had a single arguement, he always does what he says he will and is eternally thoughtful and cooks me dinner every night and does everything I ask @_@;; who would've thought, eh? Although, not having been friends before there's always a kind of weird distance.

khastra May 18 2006, 15:59:09 UTC

In part I see it as either wondering about it every time your mind thinks about it, or knowing the truth and accepting it. Besides, they are your friend, if the feelings are not mutually yea it might be weird for a while, but if they are a close enough friend they will get over it.

Heck, to throw my experinces into the mix. First person I ever had a relationship was a friend and although it ended poorly. Over time we still talked and hung out and now I consider her one of my closest friends. On the flip side of that with a different friends-prior relationship I had, that ended, I rarely if it all hear from her now and wouldn't know what to do if I saw her again.

Not sure if it helps any or makes any sense, but maybe it does.

Hope, it all works out for you.

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Re: GOODNESS!! kissntellsqurl May 19 2006, 02:55:38 UTC

Im in Mississippi right now. My dad and I are on a road trip. I actually don't have your phone number anymore, I got a new phone a while ago. I live in Farmvegas now, even though I escaped school. My new number is 703 909 3899. But anyways, yeah, we need to do some serious catch up, my friend, my oh-so elusive friend...

leobloom May 19 2006, 14:14:42 UTC

The only guarantee in life is that there are no guarantees. I've tried it both ways -- falling instantly and madly in love with someone I hardly knew and falling slowly in love with a friend. Both ended badly. One is still in my life, the other isn't. The one who's still there could just as easily not have been (and vice versa). I'm not advising you to jump off the cliff without thinking about it first, but I AM suggesting that you not worry overly much about consequences. There are ALWAYS consequences, whether you act or whether you don't. Some people who matter to you at 23 won't even be a blip on your radar screen at 32 -- you may not even be able to remember their last names ( ... )