an update...of sorts.

[kittykristi]

I am still in Copenhagen, where it is a veritable winter wonderland. I must say that this trip has been the most interesting, stressful, wonderful, weird time I have had in quite a while...all wrapped up into one amalgam

Comments

[marjun]

I am suspecting that Matt was waiting for you to be safely out of arm's reach before he revealed his true intentions. Don't be surprised if he tries to accuse you of adultery or abandonment because you took off to Copenhagen (even though he obviously knew about it beforehand). He's angry, and he will try to do things that you would never have thought he would. Get a lawyer right away, and have marital assets frozen...you won't be able to get the money, but at least he won't either. Unless there was a prenuptual agreement, the house is probably a marital asset as well, even if your name is not on the deed.

How did he manage to cancel your insurance policies?

[kittykristi]

my insurance is through his work, which he pays for...he also pays the car insurance and life insurance...because he has a full time job while I go to school and work part time.
financial assassination!

[marjun]

I'm not sure he can legally remove you from his insurance unless you are actually divorced (or the papers have been filed and it's in process). Once he's informed that he doesn't have quite the ability to control you financially that he thinks, watch for the "parenting fitness" arguments to come up. I think I would call a lawyer and explain the situation, so the lawyer can get moving before you come back. The longer Matt has, the more mischief he can cause, and even though he'll be accountable for it, that's later, after the immediate harm has been done.

[kittykristi]

It didn't occur to em whether or not he could cancel it like that...I know, I need to get a lawyer asap.
thank you!!!

[aluvrianne]

Best of luck with the whole situation.

[artemis_moon]

wow. What a turnaround. I hope it goes well. Maybe it will be hard at first, but it will work out.

I may be under the wrong impression, but it seems like he suddenly got angry that you actually left. Didn't he realize you were serious and what it would mean once you did leave?

Sorry you have to go through this.

[kibbles]

It's a shame he had to do that. You think someone talked him into it?

[yummykit]

Do you suppose Matt still had feelings for you and this has been harder on him than he wanted to admit? If so, then maybe he just reached his breaking point while you were gone and he thinks it would be easier to make this a negative situation than have to be your friend and go peacefully. I don't know.

Just a thought...it may not be correct, but I was just thinking.

[rosebranch]

I have no idea what advice to offer. What a shitty situation to be in. I hope you do get yourself an attorney and that s/he is able to help you regain/retain what is yours.