I guess according to this post, I don't process emotions as well as I should. My fear is that if I "allow" what I perceive to be a negative emotion, then I will wallow in it and attract more of it to me. So instead I try to change the emotion. I guess I try to bury the reason for it, even when I acknowledge what the reason is. For instance, if I am angry at someone, I may go so far as to acknowledge this to myself. But that's where it ends. I'm afraid that to do more would keep the negativity alive and end up with me confronting the person, starting an argument, and leading to bad feelings and maybe even separation. I have problems with confrontation, as you can see.
I did have fun reliving Fight Club through YouTube -- my favorite movie of all time!
i get where you are coming from, and i used to be more like that, but that felt to me like denial and repression. feeling the emotion does not have to mean buying into the story about it, in fact, that is kind of not the point. it's just allowing the emotion to exist without judgment, and then it goes away. whereas when i tried to pretend i didn't have the unpleasant so-called 'negative' emotion, it actually lingered under the surface. it's like, i might feel upset, burst into tears and cry for a few minutes - that was yesterday, lol - but then it's over and life goes on and i noticed today i don't feel upset about the thing that had me in tears for those three intense minutes, lol
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I did have fun reliving Fight Club through YouTube -- my favorite movie of all time!
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