tips for self-love

[kittylefish]

hi, guys, i keep meaning to post and getting distracted.  i don't seem to have oomph for follow-through lately.  however, i just saw this and shared it on facebook, and i want to share it here too because i have found these tips invaluable and they've made a huge difference in my life and happiness.  maybe someone else out there can use them too

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[toblass]

This is a wonderful list! Thank you so much for sharing.

*hugs*

[kittylefish]

i'm glad you found it useful. i know i do. *hugs*

[mimimanderly]

I've read her books; she gives some excellent advice. My main problem seems to be that I am a terrorist... but the only person I persecute is myself. I worry about all sorts of things that may never happen and catastrophize small annoyances into major problems. I seem to be addicted to anxiety. In comparison, alcohol was a cake-walk. At least I have managed to forgive myself for my past mistakes. That's something, anyway. I try to get in touch with my inner child as much as I can, because my Muse tells me that that is closer to who I really am. All these anxieties and worries are all of the Ego, screaming for attention like a spoiled brat. And I tend to treat it the way most mothers today treat their screaming brats -- I give it some candy or a toy, thereby teaching it that it can get what it wants this way. What I need to learn to do is ignore this brat or find a way to metaphorically give it a "time-out". How does one send one's Ego to its room?

[kittylefish]

How does one send one's Ego to its room?meditate? lol. i read this thing once - big mind, i think the book was called. one of the things he recommended was giving the ... i forget what he called it - the controller, i think it was - something to do. so like, tell it to keep all the other voices quiet. and once you give it a job to do it, it's occupied and happy and it's easier to find the peace of what he called big mind. seriously, what you are talking about is the ego wanting to feel like it's got some control over things. maybe it can't actually control anything, but all that worry and anxiety gives it the feeling that it is doing something very important, lol. when i find that happening, which is less and less now, i just don't worry about it too much but try to just breathe and - well, basic meditation technique, pay attention to the space between thoughts and see if you can stretch it out. they also suggest maybe giving yourself a time limit - i will worry for 15 minutes at 7:30. when worries come up at other time, you

[quaffswinegaily]

Some good advice here, though I might leave out the mirror work as I rarely look in a mirror if I can avoid it.

[kittylefish]

i am happy you found the post useful, and i always vote for taking what works for you and leaving the rest. that said, mirror work can be very difficult for a lot of people, and i think that is part of why it so powerful, once we get past the aversion. ;)